You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'll be happy to prove you rightflexion_ said:
...but, I sit next to the girl I have oneitis for so wouldn't it be a waste if I just gave up and never even bothered talking to her anymore?Why does going after other girls mean you have to give up on her? stop with the hollywood, one girl for one guy mindset. Anyway, I think dating other women willl improve your chances with girl 1.BBX said:I'll be happy to prove you right
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Shezz has it spot on.Shezz said:Easy - you go sarging and collect some more girls numbers, you have fun with the new girls and you get what you want - then you desperately try to recollect what was so special about your oneitis...oh yea, nothing
Seriously man - go get some more girls!
Like i always say - There are 4billion other women on this planet...whats so special about this one? hmmm
Sarge On...