Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'll be happy to prove you rightflexion_ said:
...but, I sit next to the girl I have oneitis for so wouldn't it be a waste if I just gave up and never even bothered talking to her anymore?Why does going after other girls mean you have to give up on her? stop with the hollywood, one girl for one guy mindset. Anyway, I think dating other women willl improve your chances with girl 1.BBX said:I'll be happy to prove you right
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Shezz has it spot on.Shezz said:Easy - you go sarging and collect some more girls numbers, you have fun with the new girls and you get what you want - then you desperately try to recollect what was so special about your oneitis...oh yea, nothing
Seriously man - go get some more girls!
Like i always say - There are 4billion other women on this planet...whats so special about this one? hmmm
Sarge On...