Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'll be happy to prove you rightflexion_ said:
...but, I sit next to the girl I have oneitis for so wouldn't it be a waste if I just gave up and never even bothered talking to her anymore?Why does going after other girls mean you have to give up on her? stop with the hollywood, one girl for one guy mindset. Anyway, I think dating other women willl improve your chances with girl 1.BBX said:I'll be happy to prove you right
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Shezz has it spot on.Shezz said:Easy - you go sarging and collect some more girls numbers, you have fun with the new girls and you get what you want - then you desperately try to recollect what was so special about your oneitis...oh yea, nothing
Seriously man - go get some more girls!
Like i always say - There are 4billion other women on this planet...whats so special about this one? hmmm
Sarge On...