She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'll be happy to prove you rightflexion_ said:
...but, I sit next to the girl I have oneitis for so wouldn't it be a waste if I just gave up and never even bothered talking to her anymore?Why does going after other girls mean you have to give up on her? stop with the hollywood, one girl for one guy mindset. Anyway, I think dating other women willl improve your chances with girl 1.BBX said:I'll be happy to prove you right
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Shezz has it spot on.Shezz said:Easy - you go sarging and collect some more girls numbers, you have fun with the new girls and you get what you want - then you desperately try to recollect what was so special about your oneitis...oh yea, nothing
Seriously man - go get some more girls!
Like i always say - There are 4billion other women on this planet...whats so special about this one? hmmm
Sarge On...