"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to deal with someone who cannot be avoided?

Brules Rules

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I don't mean like in a workplace environment. More like, somebody that you'll run into at places once in a while, or you end up having to hang out with because you have mutual friends.

I'm not gonna dig up the last post I made about this one, but I've decided that this girl's trying to play games with me, again, and I've had enough. She invited me over to her apartment last weekend, and never followed up when I asked her what time she had in mind, and she's acting like a total dipsh1t online. It's clear she hasn't changed a bit during the time that I was gone.

Plus, I don't think I'm even attracted to her anymore. She's turning into a butterball.

Anyhow, I know she thinks I've still got a hot-nut for her, so next time I see her she's going to try teasing me, and flirting with me. Like, I'll be minding my own business, and she'll hold my hand, or grab my arm and put it around her. Or she'll start saying annoying sh1t like "I really want to fvck you, but..." (yes, literally), even though I wasn't even interested, and I always lose my cool.

So how do I behave around her? What do I say to her remarks? Should I pull away when she starts getting physical? Won't that just make it worse?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Be cordial while keeping withing your own personal frame.
 

Brules Rules

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I have no problem playing nice around her, but could you give me some examples of what to do when she starts coming on to me. I don't want this girl thinking I'm still into her, but I don't need her thinking I'm a homo or something either.
 
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