"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to deal with someone who cannot be avoided?

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I don't mean like in a workplace environment. More like, somebody that you'll run into at places once in a while, or you end up having to hang out with because you have mutual friends.

I'm not gonna dig up the last post I made about this one, but I've decided that this girl's trying to play games with me, again, and I've had enough. She invited me over to her apartment last weekend, and never followed up when I asked her what time she had in mind, and she's acting like a total dipsh1t online. It's clear she hasn't changed a bit during the time that I was gone.

Plus, I don't think I'm even attracted to her anymore. She's turning into a butterball.

Anyhow, I know she thinks I've still got a hot-nut for her, so next time I see her she's going to try teasing me, and flirting with me. Like, I'll be minding my own business, and she'll hold my hand, or grab my arm and put it around her. Or she'll start saying annoying sh1t like "I really want to fvck you, but..." (yes, literally), even though I wasn't even interested, and I always lose my cool.

So how do I behave around her? What do I say to her remarks? Should I pull away when she starts getting physical? Won't that just make it worse?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Be cordial while keeping withing your own personal frame.
 

Brules Rules

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I have no problem playing nice around her, but could you give me some examples of what to do when she starts coming on to me. I don't want this girl thinking I'm still into her, but I don't need her thinking I'm a homo or something either.
 
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