"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to deal with insecurityin a relationship?

dmatter

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well I dont know how to deal with my insecurity when it comes to my gf. If i dont make her laugh ill feel as though shes losing interest or im not funny anymore. or if someone else makes her laugth ill get jealous that it wasnt me. I think it s because the infatuation stage is over and were comfortable with eachother so i dont know how to deal with it?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dmatter said:
well I dont know how to deal with my insecurity when it comes to my gf. If i dont make her laugh ill feel as though shes losing interest or im not funny anymore. or if someone else makes her laugth ill get jealous that it wasnt me. I think it s because the infatuation stage is over and were comfortable with eachother so i dont know how to deal with it?
Just don't give a fyck! GET WORKING WITH YOUR HOBBIES AND if the bytch doesn't provide "WAHT A REAL MAN NEEDS" dump her!
 
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There is no set key. You need to just have trust in your gf's feelings for you.

The root of jealousy in these situations is usually the ideal that your partner will lose interest in you or leave you for someone else (in this case, because someone else makes her laugh) - it just isn't the case.


Good Luck!
 

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parrot84 said:
Just don't give a fyck! GET WORKING WITH YOUR HOBBIES AND if the bytch doesn't provide "WAHT A REAL MAN NEEDS" dump her!
couldn't have said it better myself.

a real man has certain needs. her role as a woman is to satisfy your needs while you take care of hers. that's the whole point of a relationship. giving each other what you need so you can fulfil each other's desires. working together as a team toward building something.

also you need to maybe start dating other women. your insecurity won't go away until you know with 100% certainty that if she walks out of the door, you could replace her with a better woman.
 
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