"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how to deal with flakes

sunnykhatri736

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Guys can anyone tell me how to deal with flakes ?
I got 5 dates this week and 2 of them flaked
and we almost planned our date and the place where we were about to have sex and then she flaked.
Im new to dating stuff
so tell me how to deal with the flakes ?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Unless she explicitly offers to reschedule the only response needed before you delete their number is:

Fvck Off.
 

devilkingx2

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if she can't be bothered to show up for the dates there's nothing you can do but say fvck her and move on.

if she contacts you she gets a second chance, after a second chance if she flakes forget her forever

however if her flakes are far apart with lots of success inbetween you give extra chances.(flaking twice in 2 dates is horrible, flaking twice in 10 dates isn't so bad)
 

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The Same Way You Deal with a Chick That's HIV Positive

sunnykhatri736 said:
so tell me how to deal with the flakes ?
You don't.
 

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Ditch that b**ch and move on! You know you can do better!

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WanderingMan

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Maximus Rex said:
You don't.
I would say ^this.

Women ARE going to flake, some will, some won't. You HAVE to understand this in order to be a 'DJ'. Don't take it personal or get jaded. It's part of dating. You can learn from it though, then move on to the next one. And, if there isn't a next one, go find a next one.
 
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