nvictor
Senior Don Juan
DJs,
I want to know how to challenge her. Without being
disrespectful. With a lot of humour?
I want to know how to challenge her. Without being
disrespectful. With a lot of humour?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
nvictor said:DJs,
I want to know how to challenge her. Without being
disrespectful. With a lot of humour?
Don't dip your pen in the company ink.nvictor said:Phone call to a minimum and have a life. That's going to
be hard, we work at the same place.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nvictor said:That's going to be hard, we work at the same place.
:nono: :flowers: Didn't your dad tell you to stop tryin to pick up your sister already!:crackup:nvictor said:MacAvoy,
my brother is my manager. Dad is the boss.
A friend told me: "get your brother in your
pocket, don't mind the rest. But beware the
boss (my dad)."
sooo, if laughter is the last thing she does around u, then doesnt that defeat to purpose of C&F? she'll jus think ur a boring ****y, arrogant prick.Pakwah said:Don't back down, never let her know she is won, always keep her close, yet just far enough away. Be a jerk. Be mysterious. Don't be at her call 24/7. Have a life, don't spend all your time with her, show her you got balls, start fights, talk to other girls, dont do her any favours she wouldn't do back, keep phone calls to a minimum, don't solve her problems, don't be a shoulder.
Remember a girl who challenges you is someone who is pushing you and is looking for a push back.
They want to see that backbone.
In regards to your humour, do all that and more, but give the odd sly smile or throw in a corny joke or a dumb joke, or rip on a friend you both don't like when it is appropriate. Make laughter the last thing she does when she is around you. She will hate you, yet love you.