nvictor
Senior Don Juan
DJs,
I want to know how to challenge her. Without being
disrespectful. With a lot of humour?
I want to know how to challenge her. Without being
disrespectful. With a lot of humour?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
nvictor said:DJs,
I want to know how to challenge her. Without being
disrespectful. With a lot of humour?
Don't dip your pen in the company ink.nvictor said:Phone call to a minimum and have a life. That's going to
be hard, we work at the same place.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
nvictor said:That's going to be hard, we work at the same place.
:nono: :flowers: Didn't your dad tell you to stop tryin to pick up your sister already!:crackup:nvictor said:MacAvoy,
my brother is my manager. Dad is the boss.
A friend told me: "get your brother in your
pocket, don't mind the rest. But beware the
boss (my dad)."
sooo, if laughter is the last thing she does around u, then doesnt that defeat to purpose of C&F? she'll jus think ur a boring ****y, arrogant prick.Pakwah said:Don't back down, never let her know she is won, always keep her close, yet just far enough away. Be a jerk. Be mysterious. Don't be at her call 24/7. Have a life, don't spend all your time with her, show her you got balls, start fights, talk to other girls, dont do her any favours she wouldn't do back, keep phone calls to a minimum, don't solve her problems, don't be a shoulder.
Remember a girl who challenges you is someone who is pushing you and is looking for a push back.
They want to see that backbone.
In regards to your humour, do all that and more, but give the odd sly smile or throw in a corny joke or a dumb joke, or rip on a friend you both don't like when it is appropriate. Make laughter the last thing she does when she is around you. She will hate you, yet love you.