steve_erkle
Don Juan
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How do i do it
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
:trouble:ac3 said:read sh1t and improve it
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
hell yeah to the sleep thingCrazy Asian said:i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
Noticed as well.Crazy Asian said:i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
yup. im really glad ive got the lifting weights part down. Probably is the best thing i have in my life. seeing results and pushing myself every day is just a great experience and then i get home and fall asleep like a baby. Awesome.Vice said:Noticed as well.
But the only way for me to fall asleep is if I'm active during the day, so I MUST either run or swim, as well as lift weights.
It's a vicious circle, this self-improvement thing. I think I'm getting past the learning curve!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Rep +1Vice said:I found that my inner game went way up once I started working out, running, and swimming.
Then I started doing things I enjoyed, such as making money and playing GTA IV. Girls don't matter. I don't masterbate more than one time a week, to keep my energy levels up.
Now, at the moment I'm quite sick (Cold), but as soon as I get better I'm going to hit the gym and pool twofold to make up for all the lost exercise.
thats awesome dudeguywhoneedshelp said:Rep +1
Very true. Grand Theft Auto 4 helped me worry about a world different from the real world...so when I returned to the real world I felt refreshed.
Girl and I broke up. Yea, I broke up with her, but didn't have the inner game to move on. "I miss you, I need you" etc - no inner game.
Joined a new gym. Bought a playstation 3 with grand theft auto 4. Had sex with a new girl (who was thinner than my ex). Can't remember the last time I masturbated...
Started connecting with college friends. Have gone to the city once a week for the last 5 consecutive weeks. Met up with some people from this site.
Suddenly I don't give a sh!t about my ex and really don't give a sh!t about getting laid. If pu$$y wants to come along, great. If not, great. Unfortunately I beat Grand Theft Auto 4 in 3 weeks.
Also, by not giving a sh!t, and not walking around with the look of death on my face, I attract more women. I get numbers, some I call, some I set up dates with, some I just say "hey me and a buddy of mine are going back to the bar we met at...you should stop by..bring some friends..." no need for a date.
I've developed inner game, and you hit the nail on the head here. Understand that you can do more things for yourself. More money to invest, less spent on her. More money on you. More time for you. You > her.