"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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read sh1t and improve it
 
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Read apply and repeat. Keep repeating.

Read threads on inner game. It's basically about changing your thoughts from negative to positive. It won't happen overnight and you'll have to put the work in but it's well worth the effort and you'll notice small results over time.


Also it's important to understand what you're reading. Don't just read something and not understand what it's about.
 
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I found that my inner game went way up once I started working out, running, and swimming.

Then I started doing things I enjoyed, such as making money and playing GTA IV. Girls don't matter. I don't masterbate more than one time a week, to keep my energy levels up.

Now, at the moment I'm quite sick (Cold), but as soon as I get better I'm going to hit the gym and pool twofold to make up for all the lost exercise.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Funny as I was about to ask the same exact question. So any other suggestions on how to build inner game?
 
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i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
 
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Crazy Asian said:
i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
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hell yeah to the sleep thing
being tired ruins my whole mood for the day




So basically its just about changing the way you think?


Thats pretty hard. I tried to stop thinking negatively last year and failed bad... oh well.

Any suggestions for what i can read for inner game?
 
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Crazy Asian said:
i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
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Noticed as well.

But the only way for me to fall asleep is if I'm active during the day, so I MUST either run or swim, as well as lift weights.

It's a vicious circle, this self-improvement thing. I think I'm getting past the learning curve!
 
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Noticed as well.

But the only way for me to fall asleep is if I'm active during the day, so I MUST either run or swim, as well as lift weights.

It's a vicious circle, this self-improvement thing. I think I'm getting past the learning curve!
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yup. im really glad ive got the lifting weights part down. Probably is the best thing i have in my life. seeing results and pushing myself every day is just a great experience and then i get home and fall asleep like a baby. Awesome.

Anyway, where can I read some really good inner game stuff? Today and yesterday i kinda worked on my inner game and thought processing, and came up with some new things:

I'm going to be who i really am. F*ck conformity and trying to fit in. If people dont like me for what i truly am, that's a lot better than living a lie and having people like me for that. Once I reveal my real self I will unleash my potential.

I'm going to die someday so why not do whatever the hell i can do make my life as fun as possible?

F*ck what other people think, most people are insecure as hell and mostly worry about themselves.

In order to be confident, I need to have a strong self-image. I need to really know who I am to be confident in myself. With this comes developing my abilities, having my own opinions, and back to what i said about not trying to fit in.

I'm free to do whatever I want. There are no boundaries or rules. Anything is possible and living by structure and rules is bullsh*t. (Doesnt mean I'm going to go out any kill anyone guys)



If I think of any more, I'll tell you guys. It seems when my inner game improves I am so much more full of energy and excitement for what life holds in the future.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Vice said:
I found that my inner game went way up once I started working out, running, and swimming.

Then I started doing things I enjoyed, such as making money and playing GTA IV. Girls don't matter. I don't masterbate more than one time a week, to keep my energy levels up.

Now, at the moment I'm quite sick (Cold), but as soon as I get better I'm going to hit the gym and pool twofold to make up for all the lost exercise.
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Very true. Grand Theft Auto 4 helped me worry about a world different from the real world...so when I returned to the real world I felt refreshed.

Girl and I broke up. Yea, I broke up with her, but didn't have the inner game to move on. "I miss you, I need you" etc - no inner game.

Joined a new gym. Bought a playstation 3 with grand theft auto 4. Had sex with a new girl (who was thinner than my ex). Can't remember the last time I masturbated...

Started connecting with college friends. Have gone to the city once a week for the last 5 consecutive weeks. Met up with some people from this site.

Suddenly I don't give a sh!t about my ex and really don't give a sh!t about getting laid. If pu$$y wants to come along, great. If not, great. Unfortunately I beat Grand Theft Auto 4 in 3 weeks.

Also, by not giving a sh!t, and not walking around with the look of death on my face, I attract more women. I get numbers, some I call, some I set up dates with, some I just say "hey me and a buddy of mine are going back to the bar we met at...you should stop by..bring some friends..." no need for a date.

I've developed inner game, and you hit the nail on the head here. Understand that you can do more things for yourself. More money to invest, less spent on her. More money on you. More time for you. You > her.
 
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Very true. Grand Theft Auto 4 helped me worry about a world different from the real world...so when I returned to the real world I felt refreshed.

Girl and I broke up. Yea, I broke up with her, but didn't have the inner game to move on. "I miss you, I need you" etc - no inner game.

Joined a new gym. Bought a playstation 3 with grand theft auto 4. Had sex with a new girl (who was thinner than my ex). Can't remember the last time I masturbated...

Started connecting with college friends. Have gone to the city once a week for the last 5 consecutive weeks. Met up with some people from this site.

Suddenly I don't give a sh!t about my ex and really don't give a sh!t about getting laid. If pu$$y wants to come along, great. If not, great. Unfortunately I beat Grand Theft Auto 4 in 3 weeks.

Also, by not giving a sh!t, and not walking around with the look of death on my face, I attract more women. I get numbers, some I call, some I set up dates with, some I just say "hey me and a buddy of mine are going back to the bar we met at...you should stop by..bring some friends..." no need for a date.

I've developed inner game, and you hit the nail on the head here. Understand that you can do more things for yourself. More money to invest, less spent on her. More money on you. More time for you. You > her.
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thats awesome dude
i do feel that when i used to dominate at a select game on xbox it gave me confidence, but I decided to give up video games because i kind of used them just to pass time instead of for fun, when i could be improving myself. But i know exactly what you're talking about.

Being a DJ is more about being successful and happy then nailing a ton of *****es.
 
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