steve_erkle
Don Juan
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How do i do it
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
:trouble:ac3 said:read sh1t and improve it
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hell yeah to the sleep thingCrazy Asian said:i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
Noticed as well.Crazy Asian said:i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
yup. im really glad ive got the lifting weights part down. Probably is the best thing i have in my life. seeing results and pushing myself every day is just a great experience and then i get home and fall asleep like a baby. Awesome.Vice said:Noticed as well.
But the only way for me to fall asleep is if I'm active during the day, so I MUST either run or swim, as well as lift weights.
It's a vicious circle, this self-improvement thing. I think I'm getting past the learning curve!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Rep +1Vice said:I found that my inner game went way up once I started working out, running, and swimming.
Then I started doing things I enjoyed, such as making money and playing GTA IV. Girls don't matter. I don't masterbate more than one time a week, to keep my energy levels up.
Now, at the moment I'm quite sick (Cold), but as soon as I get better I'm going to hit the gym and pool twofold to make up for all the lost exercise.
thats awesome dudeguywhoneedshelp said:Rep +1
Very true. Grand Theft Auto 4 helped me worry about a world different from the real world...so when I returned to the real world I felt refreshed.
Girl and I broke up. Yea, I broke up with her, but didn't have the inner game to move on. "I miss you, I need you" etc - no inner game.
Joined a new gym. Bought a playstation 3 with grand theft auto 4. Had sex with a new girl (who was thinner than my ex). Can't remember the last time I masturbated...
Started connecting with college friends. Have gone to the city once a week for the last 5 consecutive weeks. Met up with some people from this site.
Suddenly I don't give a sh!t about my ex and really don't give a sh!t about getting laid. If pu$$y wants to come along, great. If not, great. Unfortunately I beat Grand Theft Auto 4 in 3 weeks.
Also, by not giving a sh!t, and not walking around with the look of death on my face, I attract more women. I get numbers, some I call, some I set up dates with, some I just say "hey me and a buddy of mine are going back to the bar we met at...you should stop by..bring some friends..." no need for a date.
I've developed inner game, and you hit the nail on the head here. Understand that you can do more things for yourself. More money to invest, less spent on her. More money on you. More time for you. You > her.