steve_erkle
Don Juan
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How do i do it
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
:trouble:ac3 said:read sh1t and improve it
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hell yeah to the sleep thingCrazy Asian said:i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
Noticed as well.Crazy Asian said:i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
yup. im really glad ive got the lifting weights part down. Probably is the best thing i have in my life. seeing results and pushing myself every day is just a great experience and then i get home and fall asleep like a baby. Awesome.Vice said:Noticed as well.
But the only way for me to fall asleep is if I'm active during the day, so I MUST either run or swim, as well as lift weights.
It's a vicious circle, this self-improvement thing. I think I'm getting past the learning curve!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rep +1Vice said:I found that my inner game went way up once I started working out, running, and swimming.
Then I started doing things I enjoyed, such as making money and playing GTA IV. Girls don't matter. I don't masterbate more than one time a week, to keep my energy levels up.
Now, at the moment I'm quite sick (Cold), but as soon as I get better I'm going to hit the gym and pool twofold to make up for all the lost exercise.
thats awesome dudeguywhoneedshelp said:Rep +1
Very true. Grand Theft Auto 4 helped me worry about a world different from the real world...so when I returned to the real world I felt refreshed.
Girl and I broke up. Yea, I broke up with her, but didn't have the inner game to move on. "I miss you, I need you" etc - no inner game.
Joined a new gym. Bought a playstation 3 with grand theft auto 4. Had sex with a new girl (who was thinner than my ex). Can't remember the last time I masturbated...
Started connecting with college friends. Have gone to the city once a week for the last 5 consecutive weeks. Met up with some people from this site.
Suddenly I don't give a sh!t about my ex and really don't give a sh!t about getting laid. If pu$$y wants to come along, great. If not, great. Unfortunately I beat Grand Theft Auto 4 in 3 weeks.
Also, by not giving a sh!t, and not walking around with the look of death on my face, I attract more women. I get numbers, some I call, some I set up dates with, some I just say "hey me and a buddy of mine are going back to the bar we met at...you should stop by..bring some friends..." no need for a date.
I've developed inner game, and you hit the nail on the head here. Understand that you can do more things for yourself. More money to invest, less spent on her. More money on you. More time for you. You > her.