"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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read sh1t and improve it
 

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Read apply and repeat. Keep repeating.

Read threads on inner game. It's basically about changing your thoughts from negative to positive. It won't happen overnight and you'll have to put the work in but it's well worth the effort and you'll notice small results over time.


Also it's important to understand what you're reading. Don't just read something and not understand what it's about.
 

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I found that my inner game went way up once I started working out, running, and swimming.

Then I started doing things I enjoyed, such as making money and playing GTA IV. Girls don't matter. I don't masterbate more than one time a week, to keep my energy levels up.

Now, at the moment I'm quite sick (Cold), but as soon as I get better I'm going to hit the gym and pool twofold to make up for all the lost exercise.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Funny as I was about to ask the same exact question. So any other suggestions on how to build inner game?
 

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i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
 

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Crazy Asian said:
i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
hell yeah to the sleep thing
being tired ruins my whole mood for the day




So basically its just about changing the way you think?


Thats pretty hard. I tried to stop thinking negatively last year and failed bad... oh well.

Any suggestions for what i can read for inner game?
 

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Crazy Asian said:
i find that i'm much more confident if i get enough sleep.
also, achieving my goals.
Noticed as well.

But the only way for me to fall asleep is if I'm active during the day, so I MUST either run or swim, as well as lift weights.

It's a vicious circle, this self-improvement thing. I think I'm getting past the learning curve!
 

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Vice said:
Noticed as well.

But the only way for me to fall asleep is if I'm active during the day, so I MUST either run or swim, as well as lift weights.

It's a vicious circle, this self-improvement thing. I think I'm getting past the learning curve!
yup. im really glad ive got the lifting weights part down. Probably is the best thing i have in my life. seeing results and pushing myself every day is just a great experience and then i get home and fall asleep like a baby. Awesome.

Anyway, where can I read some really good inner game stuff? Today and yesterday i kinda worked on my inner game and thought processing, and came up with some new things:

I'm going to be who i really am. F*ck conformity and trying to fit in. If people dont like me for what i truly am, that's a lot better than living a lie and having people like me for that. Once I reveal my real self I will unleash my potential.

I'm going to die someday so why not do whatever the hell i can do make my life as fun as possible?

F*ck what other people think, most people are insecure as hell and mostly worry about themselves.

In order to be confident, I need to have a strong self-image. I need to really know who I am to be confident in myself. With this comes developing my abilities, having my own opinions, and back to what i said about not trying to fit in.

I'm free to do whatever I want. There are no boundaries or rules. Anything is possible and living by structure and rules is bullsh*t. (Doesnt mean I'm going to go out any kill anyone guys)



If I think of any more, I'll tell you guys. It seems when my inner game improves I am so much more full of energy and excitement for what life holds in the future.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Vice said:
I found that my inner game went way up once I started working out, running, and swimming.

Then I started doing things I enjoyed, such as making money and playing GTA IV. Girls don't matter. I don't masterbate more than one time a week, to keep my energy levels up.

Now, at the moment I'm quite sick (Cold), but as soon as I get better I'm going to hit the gym and pool twofold to make up for all the lost exercise.
Rep +1

Very true. Grand Theft Auto 4 helped me worry about a world different from the real world...so when I returned to the real world I felt refreshed.

Girl and I broke up. Yea, I broke up with her, but didn't have the inner game to move on. "I miss you, I need you" etc - no inner game.

Joined a new gym. Bought a playstation 3 with grand theft auto 4. Had sex with a new girl (who was thinner than my ex). Can't remember the last time I masturbated...

Started connecting with college friends. Have gone to the city once a week for the last 5 consecutive weeks. Met up with some people from this site.

Suddenly I don't give a sh!t about my ex and really don't give a sh!t about getting laid. If pu$$y wants to come along, great. If not, great. Unfortunately I beat Grand Theft Auto 4 in 3 weeks.

Also, by not giving a sh!t, and not walking around with the look of death on my face, I attract more women. I get numbers, some I call, some I set up dates with, some I just say "hey me and a buddy of mine are going back to the bar we met at...you should stop by..bring some friends..." no need for a date.

I've developed inner game, and you hit the nail on the head here. Understand that you can do more things for yourself. More money to invest, less spent on her. More money on you. More time for you. You > her.
 

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guywhoneedshelp said:
Rep +1

Very true. Grand Theft Auto 4 helped me worry about a world different from the real world...so when I returned to the real world I felt refreshed.

Girl and I broke up. Yea, I broke up with her, but didn't have the inner game to move on. "I miss you, I need you" etc - no inner game.

Joined a new gym. Bought a playstation 3 with grand theft auto 4. Had sex with a new girl (who was thinner than my ex). Can't remember the last time I masturbated...

Started connecting with college friends. Have gone to the city once a week for the last 5 consecutive weeks. Met up with some people from this site.

Suddenly I don't give a sh!t about my ex and really don't give a sh!t about getting laid. If pu$$y wants to come along, great. If not, great. Unfortunately I beat Grand Theft Auto 4 in 3 weeks.

Also, by not giving a sh!t, and not walking around with the look of death on my face, I attract more women. I get numbers, some I call, some I set up dates with, some I just say "hey me and a buddy of mine are going back to the bar we met at...you should stop by..bring some friends..." no need for a date.

I've developed inner game, and you hit the nail on the head here. Understand that you can do more things for yourself. More money to invest, less spent on her. More money on you. More time for you. You > her.
thats awesome dude
i do feel that when i used to dominate at a select game on xbox it gave me confidence, but I decided to give up video games because i kind of used them just to pass time instead of for fun, when i could be improving myself. But i know exactly what you're talking about.

Being a DJ is more about being successful and happy then nailing a ton of *****es.
 
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