"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to build chemistry with a woman!

schttrj

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i have been seeing something for quite sometime. i am attracting girls no problem but im not being able to take it to the next level. im that interesting funny guy to them, but that connection is not formed. how do you build that quickly? any ideas?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Mavrick

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You build the chemistry by not trying to build the chemistry. You let everything flow naturally. Also, you don't become to available. You trying to keep up the intrigue for her by not always being there when she wants you to be.

Anytime you try to force it, it fails. You've obviously been seeing this or you wouldn't have come here.

Good luck!
 

jacob

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You said you're already the interesting funny guy, so building chemistry and taking it to the next level requires kino.

The object of the game is to get as close as you can to the opposite sex, and the closest you can ever get is having sex, which starts by touching.

So start using sensual touch or risk just being the interesting funny guy friend.
 

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I'll take compatibility of chemistry any day. Chemistry goes away.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sometimes “that interesting funny guy” is simply entertaining and little more. To get to the nest level, to go further requires making a connection on a deeper level. You’ve got to connect with what she thinks and not every girl thinks the same things.
 

schttrj

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potato, thats what i talking of. connection? a big word and i think it is the gateway to the sexual part. being interesting is what gets a girl curious about u but connecting with her is so important, how do u form that emotional connection?
 
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