"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to be C&F?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
For example, the other day I was out at a club talking to these girls and they asked me if I was Italian. When I said no, they said "you look Italian". I said, well if I were Italian I'd be talking to you like this (at this point I started grabbing my balls and moving my shoulders up and down like Tony Soprano, while repeatedly saying "eehhhh"). The laughed at this.
Basically, the first thing that comes to your mind is usually the best thing to say. Although, you want to take a microsecond to think if it will be too much and offend them. It's better to go for it anyway at first until your subconscious learns automatically when to blurt something out and when to hold back.
tsmith2334
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that's a horrible example. just about every single joke about the "guido" stereotype has been done to death. step your game up.Dragon said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
tsmith2334
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Yea, 1.2 posts per day... I just can't leave this damn keyboard alone!Dragon said:
I'm actually getting to ready to go to a sports restaurant and one of the plates I'm spinning will be working the bar. Let's see how I do.
Oh, and I'll make sure to leave the guido jokes alone. They stopped being funny in 2006.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ronnie Poleman
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Just be yourself. I find C&F comes naturally to me, especially if I'm in a good mood. Watching a lot of comedy helps with that, plus if it doesn't come naturally, you can observe how the comedians deliver their lines. A lot of it is playful sarcasm, like in the link above. Whatever type of person you are, it doesn't hurt to go into a club happy and relaxed, because that will always help C&F.
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Let us know how it works out.
tsmith2334
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fair enough. no hard feelings my friend.Dragon said:
1-3 are good, 5 is great.MagicMark said:
BE CAREFUL with six.
7 is good.
8 could get a mixed reaction, it's hit or miss. (no pun intended)
4, 9-10 be careful not to overuse.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
sarcastic comedic exaggeration
in other words saying things based on truth but very outrageous
i.e. Point to young girl at the bar -> "how did she get in here, she looks six"
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