"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to be C&F?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
For example, the other day I was out at a club talking to these girls and they asked me if I was Italian. When I said no, they said "you look Italian". I said, well if I were Italian I'd be talking to you like this (at this point I started grabbing my balls and moving my shoulders up and down like Tony Soprano, while repeatedly saying "eehhhh"). The laughed at this.
Basically, the first thing that comes to your mind is usually the best thing to say. Although, you want to take a microsecond to think if it will be too much and offend them. It's better to go for it anyway at first until your subconscious learns automatically when to blurt something out and when to hold back.
tsmith2334
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that's a horrible example. just about every single joke about the "guido" stereotype has been done to death. step your game up.Dragon said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
tsmith2334
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Yea, 1.2 posts per day... I just can't leave this damn keyboard alone!Dragon said:
I'm actually getting to ready to go to a sports restaurant and one of the plates I'm spinning will be working the bar. Let's see how I do.
Oh, and I'll make sure to leave the guido jokes alone. They stopped being funny in 2006.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Just be yourself. I find C&F comes naturally to me, especially if I'm in a good mood. Watching a lot of comedy helps with that, plus if it doesn't come naturally, you can observe how the comedians deliver their lines. A lot of it is playful sarcasm, like in the link above. Whatever type of person you are, it doesn't hurt to go into a club happy and relaxed, because that will always help C&F.
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Let us know how it works out.
tsmith2334
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fair enough. no hard feelings my friend.Dragon said:
1-3 are good, 5 is great.MagicMark said:
BE CAREFUL with six.
7 is good.
8 could get a mixed reaction, it's hit or miss. (no pun intended)
4, 9-10 be careful not to overuse.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
tsmith2334
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sarcastic comedic exaggeration
in other words saying things based on truth but very outrageous
i.e. Point to young girl at the bar -> "how did she get in here, she looks six"
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