"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how to be a bit taller

fillme

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I need to be a bit taller (at least by an inch). I am 5' 5'' now and am not comfortable with this. Is it impossible at my age? I'm 27 now.

Anyone can throw some suggestions/ good websites etc. should be helpful.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Duke

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Get over your height issue. You are using it as an excuse. Some of the BEST seducers in the game are classified as short. Height isn't a biological issue like FATNESS is. If you can compensate for the social value lost by your height via seducing the girl, being charming, having a sense of humor, being a good storyteller, etc, then it won't matter. Trust me. I was in a LTR with a girl for a year whose 5'10 and I'm 5'6.

Attract them and connect with them enough and it won't matter. Don't use your height as an excuse.

If you feel like taller guys have an advantage over you, remember that people only have the power that you give them. Don't acknowledge the height difference. If worst case scenario, some AMOG tries to insult you on it, socially tool him and make him look like a dumbass.

If a girl calls you short, then she's SH!T TESTING YOU. Don't fold. Reframe it.
 

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Work on what you can change. Forget what you can't. This is the standard answer.

You certainly want to check out your posture. Most people have pure posture and this can appear or actually increase your height by an inch or so.

I don't see anything wrong with wearing shoes/boots with a reasonable heel. But Cuban's smack shortarse with height issues.

Tone up, tan up and dress well.

Have you ever known someone for a while, suddenly one day you realise how short they are. Wonder why that happens?
 

sfalexi

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Yeah. Right now I'm working on a 6 foot chick (model) and I'm 5'4". This one's gonna be touch as hell though cause she told me she would never date someone shorter than her and she's not looking for a relationship . . . but then again, I haven't had a good challenge in a LONG time. I may not get her in the end, but I'm having a fun as hell time trying!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alpine

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I admire your attitude. At 5 6' to date a 6 footer I'd feel daft, I know you shouldn't but i draw the line at 5 or 6 inches.
 

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My dad is 5'5" and he has all sorts of women... and he's married... I know he has women cause they always call the house tryin to start stuff wit my mom... Once a playa, always a playa right???
 

Alpine

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Ice cream man.

Doesn't that bother you at all? I don't know how old you are but it would bother me.

Sounds like you are already set to carry on the tradition. We're all blokes and even in realtionships you can still feel the urge to play around, but I wouldn't want to shove that in my kids face.
 

sfalexi

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Yeah, Alpine, I have no reserves when it comes to height (or for that matter any other 'odd' qualities) in women. One of the best girls I ever dated was four inches taller, rode a harley, was wicca(believing strongly in nature and witchcraft), a horseback rider and a bisexual. She also had a girlfriend at the time we were dating. But all that really matters to me is just three things. (A) they gotta have nice hair, (B) gotta have a nice body, and (C) we gotta get along well.

She got all three, so I went out with her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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