"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to be a bad boy WITHOUT coming off as an a $ $ h 0 l e

Demystify

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So I've learned that it's hard for me to be a bad boy and not come off as an a$$h0le. Any advice on how not to be a bad boy and not come of as an a$$h0le?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's all right........ if u have a good time!
Demystify, you'd need to have been both the penultimate bad boy and the penultimate PUA to make a reasonable comparison on the effectiveness of each 'strategy'. In other words, you don't know wtf you're talking about.

Wanna be a bad boy? Contact a shady psychotherapist and have him plant repressed memories in you of sexual abuse as a child. Should work wonders.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Alle_Gory

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mustfirstregister said:
why do you wanna be a bad boy?
be a PUA instead.
Yeah. Apply some of that C1, D1 level 2 comfort builder sh*t.
 
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So you want to act like a bad boy... lol, why don't you go to Hollywood and start acting? Life is not about acting (unless you are a professional).
 

Demystify

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Thanks for all the advice, but many of you aren't answer the original question:

How to be a bad boy WITHOUT coming off as an a $ $ h 0 l e
 

Julius_Seizeher

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It's the bad boy with the heart of gold who they go nuts for. Ever has it been, ever shall it be.

In other words, the bad boy/sometimes a$$hole who is 'misunderstood'. Think James Dean and every rock star who ever lived.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bad boys dont care if people think they're an assh0le or not.

But, people will only think you're an assh0le if you do wrong to people, so dont. Simple as that.
 

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Don't attack the girls.

For example. A bad boy doesn't take sh*t from people in charge. An assh*le will judge you based on what haircut you have. One is defense, the other is pointless attack on someone's personality and choice.

A badboy is courageous and does things despite warnings from other people. An assh*le doesn't give a sh*t and won't help you out even if you ask for help. In fact, the assh*le will probably kick you while you're down.


... etc. Something like that.
 
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