"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to be a bad boy WITHOUT coming off as an a $ $ h 0 l e

Demystify

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So I've learned that it's hard for me to be a bad boy and not come off as an a$$h0le. Any advice on how not to be a bad boy and not come of as an a$$h0le?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It's all right........ if u have a good time!
Demystify, you'd need to have been both the penultimate bad boy and the penultimate PUA to make a reasonable comparison on the effectiveness of each 'strategy'. In other words, you don't know wtf you're talking about.

Wanna be a bad boy? Contact a shady psychotherapist and have him plant repressed memories in you of sexual abuse as a child. Should work wonders.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alle_Gory

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mustfirstregister said:
why do you wanna be a bad boy?
be a PUA instead.
Yeah. Apply some of that C1, D1 level 2 comfort builder sh*t.
 
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So you want to act like a bad boy... lol, why don't you go to Hollywood and start acting? Life is not about acting (unless you are a professional).
 

Demystify

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Thanks for all the advice, but many of you aren't answer the original question:

How to be a bad boy WITHOUT coming off as an a $ $ h 0 l e
 

Julius_Seizeher

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It's the bad boy with the heart of gold who they go nuts for. Ever has it been, ever shall it be.

In other words, the bad boy/sometimes a$$hole who is 'misunderstood'. Think James Dean and every rock star who ever lived.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bad boys dont care if people think they're an assh0le or not.

But, people will only think you're an assh0le if you do wrong to people, so dont. Simple as that.
 

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Don't attack the girls.

For example. A bad boy doesn't take sh*t from people in charge. An assh*le will judge you based on what haircut you have. One is defense, the other is pointless attack on someone's personality and choice.

A badboy is courageous and does things despite warnings from other people. An assh*le doesn't give a sh*t and won't help you out even if you ask for help. In fact, the assh*le will probably kick you while you're down.


... etc. Something like that.
 
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