"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How To Ask

Haboob

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Theres this girl in my class that I want to ask out. I'm 15, in high school and havn't asked anyone out before. So I don't know how I should go about it.

Should I ask her out somewhere? Where? I can't drive a car yet!

The whole concept of a 'date' seems weird to me. Even other guys my age with girlfriends don't go out on 'dates'.

So could someone please offer me some advice?

Thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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1.) read the DJ Bible
2.) Get the number
3.) Call and TELL her that you two should meet up at "XYZ" location
4.) Meet up and have a blast
5.) repeat 3 and 4

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don't think of a date as being so formal. a date can be her coming over to sit around, watch a movie, and check out eachother's mouths for awhile.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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supajsilver2 said:
don't think of a date as being so formal. a date can be her coming over to sit around, watch a movie, and check out eachother's mouths for awhile.
liar... dates are formal.

Go buy a white dress shirt, black dress pants, black dress shoes, etc. Make sure you're looking your prettiest too.

Since it's formal... address her as 'Miss' or 'M'Lady'... such as "You are looking exquisite today, m'lady. Shall we go on with our engagement?"

That will sweep her off of her feet... head over heels in love with you.

Don't bother expecting them to go out with you as a boyfriend-girlfriend kind of thing... it's so pointless... you don't have a car like you said.

Do what kids do at your age... go ask them to hangout with a group of friends at a movie theatre or mall... then when you have LOTS of friends... when you're older you can start doing more "mature" dates... because you're already "in the good ol gang".
 

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supajsilver2 said:
don't think of a date as being so formal. a date can be her coming over to sit around, watch a movie, and check out eachother's mouths for awhile.
cosign

That is why its called a Day 2, get out of the frame of thinking "I'm on a date", the word date is usually thought of as a dinner and then movies where the man is a gentlemen and pays for everything and then tries for a kiss at the end.

Think of it as a hangout, best way is to do your normal game get the # and either try to get a day2 or instant date. Even just venue changing to somewhere else will get you further in the interaction.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Haboob

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Alright I want to ask her to hang out then. Where should we go? You guys arent exactly helping.
 

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one thing have you even talked to her before. does she know your intrested? is she intrested? now as far as where to go... go anywhere movies mall out to eat somewheree for your age and not drivin movies would be best get a couple of friends or w/e get her to bring some friends have some fun. but really need some more detail on your situation more things about her what kind of person she is wat kind of relationship or w/e yall have now like how well she knows you and stuff .
 

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well... ive been in her class for a whole year. I talk to her, but not quite enough to know lots about her. I guess i would consider us friends. Is she interested? Who wouldnt be interested in me? Yes, I think she is. (I hope)

Thing is I have NEVER done this before.

I don't really hang out around town in large groups a lot. Mainly just with a few good friends.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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couldnt be easier mate..

after a little small talk in class

you- hey whats doing saturday night?
her-im not sure yet,maybe this or this..you?
you-ohh ok cool,oi me and my mates are drinking *or whatever* you should come?

and then if she says yeah,say i'll grab your number and we'll work it out before then

if she makes up bull and avoids eye contact,just forget it
 
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