"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How To Ask

Haboob

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Theres this girl in my class that I want to ask out. I'm 15, in high school and havn't asked anyone out before. So I don't know how I should go about it.

Should I ask her out somewhere? Where? I can't drive a car yet!

The whole concept of a 'date' seems weird to me. Even other guys my age with girlfriends don't go out on 'dates'.

So could someone please offer me some advice?

Thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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1.) read the DJ Bible
2.) Get the number
3.) Call and TELL her that you two should meet up at "XYZ" location
4.) Meet up and have a blast
5.) repeat 3 and 4

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don't think of a date as being so formal. a date can be her coming over to sit around, watch a movie, and check out eachother's mouths for awhile.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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supajsilver2 said:
don't think of a date as being so formal. a date can be her coming over to sit around, watch a movie, and check out eachother's mouths for awhile.
liar... dates are formal.

Go buy a white dress shirt, black dress pants, black dress shoes, etc. Make sure you're looking your prettiest too.

Since it's formal... address her as 'Miss' or 'M'Lady'... such as "You are looking exquisite today, m'lady. Shall we go on with our engagement?"

That will sweep her off of her feet... head over heels in love with you.

Don't bother expecting them to go out with you as a boyfriend-girlfriend kind of thing... it's so pointless... you don't have a car like you said.

Do what kids do at your age... go ask them to hangout with a group of friends at a movie theatre or mall... then when you have LOTS of friends... when you're older you can start doing more "mature" dates... because you're already "in the good ol gang".
 

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supajsilver2 said:
don't think of a date as being so formal. a date can be her coming over to sit around, watch a movie, and check out eachother's mouths for awhile.
cosign

That is why its called a Day 2, get out of the frame of thinking "I'm on a date", the word date is usually thought of as a dinner and then movies where the man is a gentlemen and pays for everything and then tries for a kiss at the end.

Think of it as a hangout, best way is to do your normal game get the # and either try to get a day2 or instant date. Even just venue changing to somewhere else will get you further in the interaction.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alright I want to ask her to hang out then. Where should we go? You guys arent exactly helping.
 

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one thing have you even talked to her before. does she know your intrested? is she intrested? now as far as where to go... go anywhere movies mall out to eat somewheree for your age and not drivin movies would be best get a couple of friends or w/e get her to bring some friends have some fun. but really need some more detail on your situation more things about her what kind of person she is wat kind of relationship or w/e yall have now like how well she knows you and stuff .
 

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well... ive been in her class for a whole year. I talk to her, but not quite enough to know lots about her. I guess i would consider us friends. Is she interested? Who wouldnt be interested in me? Yes, I think she is. (I hope)

Thing is I have NEVER done this before.

I don't really hang out around town in large groups a lot. Mainly just with a few good friends.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ye yeah

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couldnt be easier mate..

after a little small talk in class

you- hey whats doing saturday night?
her-im not sure yet,maybe this or this..you?
you-ohh ok cool,oi me and my mates are drinking *or whatever* you should come?

and then if she says yeah,say i'll grab your number and we'll work it out before then

if she makes up bull and avoids eye contact,just forget it
 
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