How to ask a girl to become your girlfriend?

[Real]

p.s. i am 100% sure he is not from this country, his english is kind of bad, i would guess he's from asia/india?

 

[charnsak]

I am from south east asia, not india.

 

[xectxny19x]

thai.

 

[Bonhomme]

Arrange a get-together (or date), don't "ask" someone for a relationship. If she has a good enough time with you and is hot enough for you, the relationship will take care of itself.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

You cant make someone who is not into you like you because when you try to do that you start displaying low value to her and start further eroding what attraction is left there if any. Right now the power-balance is all her and none of you. For a girl to become a girlfriend, she first has to respect you as a man and until you get that type of respect and FEEL like a man around her then it wont work because you'll feel like a boy being strung along while she falls for a man - and of course you cant have a girlfriend with a girl that doesn't respect you, she'll only have a relationship of what she can get out of you while cheating with guys she is really into or has that respect for.

Thus, the real question is what type of girl will make you feel like a man, and that is the girl that you would ask to be a girlfriend if you be a man around her.

This one - you are a nice boy around her not a man, so she wont want to be your girlfriend cause the respect is not there.

 

[Bible_Belt]

After that time, I step out from her (less speakeing to her but not completly ignore).
Yesterday She asked me out for dinner...
I declined but asked her out to somewhere else she accecpted, We cool.

This part is all good.

But after I send her home, I was trying to call her but she was not pick up the call.

This is bad. After you have the date, don't call her! It can only go badly.

What happen?

You acted needy and clingy by calling her.

What should I do

Forget about her until your date. If she flakes, find a different girl.

What does she want?

She wants a man, so don't be a needy wuss. Never ask a wioman for commitment.

If you want her to be your gf, here's what you do: have sex with her. Then act like it is no big deal. Then have sex with her again a few days later. After you repeat this process a few times, then you become her bf without ever having the 'will you be my gf?' conversation.

 

[charnsak]

Thank you all.
Cause my english grammar skill is bad, But I can read and understand you all!

 

[charnsak]

Hey all!!!
I have asked her out again...
she say yes..
Tomorrow we will be together.

What should I do/Don't ?
Thank

 

[Bible_Belt]

Yeah, casual and fun. And don't call her tonight.

Do you have it planned out? At least know what you want to do, including a second plan in case the first does not work out. Go do something you enjoy, and bring her along for the ride. Don't ask her what she wants to do. Don't worry about whether she is having a good time; just have fun, and she will. Before the night is over, you had better kiss her to avoid the friend zone. Do the kiss test, stroke her hair thing. If she rejects you at all, then don't call her again.

 

[sav]

there is no way to ASK a girl to just become ur girlfriend...

i find its something that just happens... you hang out together, you have a good time, you fool around, you have sex after a while, it becomes a MUTUAL understanding that you two are exclusive hence you are boyfriend and girlfriend..

 

[xdreamz]

a woman is like the weather, one day it's rainy the next day it's sunny.

whatever ways that seem impossible now may be the common door in the future.

 

[amoka]

I have meet a girl at my workplace.
We go out together for 3 times.

But I don't know how she is feeling with me, Friend or more.

I am a nice guy for the first 2 dates.

but after I found this site I have changed (not much) using some technique in the DJ Bible.

Now I asked her out but she declined. I don't know why may be she is busy.

The point is I want to go more far than this, 3 dates should be enough to ask her to become my girlfriend right?

I will try asking her to hang out again, if she say YES I will ask her to become my girlfriend.

Do you have any idea on this situation?. any suggestion to ask her?. Am I doing the right thing?

thank you

ARE YOU SERIOUS?

 

[amoka]

OK, I asked her out again today, she rejected.

feeling desperated now, but I will move on.

I am trying to make myself as normal as possible when talking and reacting to her

For a kid your age, you begin learning about "girlfriend" too early.

 

[young_gun]

If you sit down and you decide that a relationship is REALLY WHAT YOU WANT (not just somebody to have sex with and who will listen to your pouty AFC @ss) I don't see a problem with asking them to be your girlfriend. As long as you don't use it as a way to smother your insecurities, I don't see a problem with it.

I think it's a little rediculous to ask a girl out that you haven't known for a good amount of time, but if what you really want is a girlfriend, and you think you've found somebody special, I say go for it.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

Pook can help you if you are willing to take direction:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39729
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39769
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39785
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39887
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39888
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40188
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40241
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40347
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40698
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=58363

ahhhh AD's machine. True knowledge at it's finest

 

[Kotz]

How old are you? 11?

You don't ask a girl to be your "girlfriend". It's something that happens over time.

That depends, at least here in Brazil is culturally expected that the man (or sometimes the girl) ask the other person to be "girlfriend/boyfriend". Of course, after long time having romantic seeings

 

[charnsak]

The result today is bad.
We don't have a good time.
I can't make it causal and funny.
I can't do it.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Just relax. The more you focus on trying to do everything right, the less you actually do right. Trust me, I can't seem to learn this lesson very well either. I feel like a bit of a hypocrite pointing this out to anybody else.

 

[SinJester]

This sounds like it should be in the hgih school forum. lol

 

[amoka]

This sounds like it should be in the hgih school forum. lol

Best fit for AE section.