"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How to ask a girl to become your girlfriend?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Bonhomme
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Thus, the real question is what type of girl will make you feel like a man, and that is the girl that you would ask to be a girlfriend if you be a man around her.
This one - you are a nice boy around her not a man, so she wont want to be your girlfriend cause the respect is not there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt
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Yesterday She asked me out for dinner...
I declined but asked her out to somewhere else she accecpted, We cool.
This part is all good.
But after I send her home, I was trying to call her but she was not pick up the call.
This is bad. After you have the date, don't call her! It can only go badly.
What happen?
You acted needy and clingy by calling her.
What should I do
Forget about her until your date. If she flakes, find a different girl.
What does she want?
She wants a man, so don't be a needy wuss. Never ask a wioman for commitment.
If you want her to be your gf, here's what you do: have sex with her. Then act like it is no big deal. Then have sex with her again a few days later. After you repeat this process a few times, then you become her bf without ever having the 'will you be my gf?' conversation.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Do you have it planned out? At least know what you want to do, including a second plan in case the first does not work out. Go do something you enjoy, and bring her along for the ride. Don't ask her what she wants to do. Don't worry about whether she is having a good time; just have fun, and she will. Before the night is over, you had better kiss her to avoid the friend zone. Do the kiss test, stroke her hair thing. If she rejects you at all, then don't call her again.
i find its something that just happens... you hang out together, you have a good time, you fool around, you have sex after a while, it becomes a MUTUAL understanding that you two are exclusive hence you are boyfriend and girlfriend..
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think it's a little rediculous to ask a girl out that you haven't known for a good amount of time, but if what you really want is a girlfriend, and you think you've found somebody special, I say go for it.
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ahhhh AD's machine. True knowledge at it's finestObsidian said:
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Kotz
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That depends, at least here in Brazil is culturally expected that the man (or sometimes the girl) ask the other person to be "girlfriend/boyfriend". Of course, after long time having romantic seeingsCentaurion said:
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.