"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How to ask a girl to become your girlfriend?
- Thread starter charnsak
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Bonhomme
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Thus, the real question is what type of girl will make you feel like a man, and that is the girl that you would ask to be a girlfriend if you be a man around her.
This one - you are a nice boy around her not a man, so she wont want to be your girlfriend cause the respect is not there.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt
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Yesterday She asked me out for dinner...
I declined but asked her out to somewhere else she accecpted, We cool.
This part is all good.
But after I send her home, I was trying to call her but she was not pick up the call.
This is bad. After you have the date, don't call her! It can only go badly.
What happen?
You acted needy and clingy by calling her.
What should I do
Forget about her until your date. If she flakes, find a different girl.
What does she want?
She wants a man, so don't be a needy wuss. Never ask a wioman for commitment.
If you want her to be your gf, here's what you do: have sex with her. Then act like it is no big deal. Then have sex with her again a few days later. After you repeat this process a few times, then you become her bf without ever having the 'will you be my gf?' conversation.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Do you have it planned out? At least know what you want to do, including a second plan in case the first does not work out. Go do something you enjoy, and bring her along for the ride. Don't ask her what she wants to do. Don't worry about whether she is having a good time; just have fun, and she will. Before the night is over, you had better kiss her to avoid the friend zone. Do the kiss test, stroke her hair thing. If she rejects you at all, then don't call her again.
i find its something that just happens... you hang out together, you have a good time, you fool around, you have sex after a while, it becomes a MUTUAL understanding that you two are exclusive hence you are boyfriend and girlfriend..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think it's a little rediculous to ask a girl out that you haven't known for a good amount of time, but if what you really want is a girlfriend, and you think you've found somebody special, I say go for it.
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ahhhh AD's machine. True knowledge at it's finestObsidian said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Kotz
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That depends, at least here in Brazil is culturally expected that the man (or sometimes the girl) ask the other person to be "girlfriend/boyfriend". Of course, after long time having romantic seeingsCentaurion said:
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.