iseovodoia
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There so many hot girls that sit by themselves but I can't seem to build up the courage to approach
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How to approach girls at college!
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You won't die if you approach them. Just say something that suits the situations: ask where this class is or where library. It only gets easier after that. You won't care after nth approach. Remember only you determine your self-worth and if you get rejected, she's rejected your approach, not you as a person.
Read the DJ bible.
Read the DJ bible.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Wondering what if for DAYS is much worst than the very brief ego kick you'll get from rejection. Kill your ego, that is the key to eliminating approach anxiety, deltabeta gives you one way and that is to separate yourself from your actions... this has the added benefit of being able to look outside in and see what approach methods are working and what don't. Think of it as an experiment, take notes just start getting to work.
Tictac
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They sit by themselves because nearly every guy thinks just like you do.
They rarely bite and are almost never poisonous to taste. And they are tired of wimps that don't have the balls to just go talk to them like a real human being.
Just go ask one her name. If she asks you yours, go from there.
They rarely bite and are almost never poisonous to taste. And they are tired of wimps that don't have the balls to just go talk to them like a real human being.
Just go ask one her name. If she asks you yours, go from there.
I promise you that approaching'll never be easier than it is in college--especially if you live on campus. But even if you don't you're not really 'strangers.' Basically my strategy my first semester at the two different schools I went to was to introduce myself to as many people as possible and then to introduce those people to other people.
If you're college is huge on Greek life, the bar scene, etc. it'll be tougher--but even then there are tons of people there who wish they had a bigger social circle but are too insecure to expand beyond whatever small clique they settled into.
If you're college is huge on Greek life, the bar scene, etc. it'll be tougher--but even then there are tons of people there who wish they had a bigger social circle but are too insecure to expand beyond whatever small clique they settled into.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
The longer you think about it , the more excuses you will find why you should not approach.
Read the dj bible.
Read the dj bible.
