"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to approach a girl in the gym

Ceams_

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Hello, again friends.

There's a hot chick at my gym that I'm really fond of but I don't know how could I approach her since I'm new to the gym, and I'm not as bulked as the others. She has looked at me quite a few times so she has definitely noticed me.
What could I say to her to get her number or maybe arrange a date?

Thank you & stay safe
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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mozarto.o

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HELLO Madam. It is through my very eyes that I sense a most DEEP connection between our personalities. Perhaps you would be interested in accompanying me outside to take the air?
 

mrgoodstuff

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Hello, again friends.

There's a hot chick at my gym that I'm really fond of but I don't know how could I approach her since I'm new to the gym, and I'm not as bulked as the others. She has looked at me quite a few times so she has definitely noticed me.
What could I say to her to get her number or maybe arrange a date?

Thank you & stay safe
Why does it matter if YOU are fond of her? What matters is that she has an interest in you. Without spending a lot of time observing in her direction, take note if she's giving you choosing signals. I personally wouldn't interrupt someones workout. Not a good move or a good look. You can talk to babes in the gym on the way in ( in line ), in a class where there is a paused period for startup time, or outside the gym in nearby venues.
 

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Gym approaching has gotten more difficult in the post COVID world. With masks and distancing being common, this isn't going to be easy.

Generally speaking, gym approaching is divided into 2 components: the generalized weight room area or fitness class studio areas.

The worst thing about gym approaching is earbuds is the general weight room area. Earbuds are a plague on gyms like Coronavirus is plague on the world. When I was in college (2001-02 to 2004-05), only the best looking women wore personal music devices to the gym, and it was the early stage iPod back then. Maybe 15% of women of were doing it. By the time I got to my current city in 2011, about 85-90% of women were wearing earbuds, and that number has stayed consistent since then. I will approach a woman with earbuds in, but it is more difficult. You have to watch really closely for body language indicators, or just have the guts to interrupt women's workouts on the hope that if you do it enough, someone will be interested. I've taken group fitness classes in my current city to work around the earbud problem over the years. I prefer doing it this way, but have done weight room approaches with women with earbuds in at times.

@Ceams_ - You have achieved the most difficult part of gym approaching. You've gotten positive body language. You are free to open her with almost anything. I would open her with an observation about her (what you noticed about her), ask her some questions, and then ask her out on a drinks date or activity date (if you've determined some great activity you have in common).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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