"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to approach a girl in the gym

Ceams_

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Hello, again friends.

There's a hot chick at my gym that I'm really fond of but I don't know how could I approach her since I'm new to the gym, and I'm not as bulked as the others. She has looked at me quite a few times so she has definitely noticed me.
What could I say to her to get her number or maybe arrange a date?

Thank you & stay safe
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mozarto.o

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HELLO Madam. It is through my very eyes that I sense a most DEEP connection between our personalities. Perhaps you would be interested in accompanying me outside to take the air?
 

mrgoodstuff

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Hello, again friends.

There's a hot chick at my gym that I'm really fond of but I don't know how could I approach her since I'm new to the gym, and I'm not as bulked as the others. She has looked at me quite a few times so she has definitely noticed me.
What could I say to her to get her number or maybe arrange a date?

Thank you & stay safe
Why does it matter if YOU are fond of her? What matters is that she has an interest in you. Without spending a lot of time observing in her direction, take note if she's giving you choosing signals. I personally wouldn't interrupt someones workout. Not a good move or a good look. You can talk to babes in the gym on the way in ( in line ), in a class where there is a paused period for startup time, or outside the gym in nearby venues.
 

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Gym approaching has gotten more difficult in the post COVID world. With masks and distancing being common, this isn't going to be easy.

Generally speaking, gym approaching is divided into 2 components: the generalized weight room area or fitness class studio areas.

The worst thing about gym approaching is earbuds is the general weight room area. Earbuds are a plague on gyms like Coronavirus is plague on the world. When I was in college (2001-02 to 2004-05), only the best looking women wore personal music devices to the gym, and it was the early stage iPod back then. Maybe 15% of women of were doing it. By the time I got to my current city in 2011, about 85-90% of women were wearing earbuds, and that number has stayed consistent since then. I will approach a woman with earbuds in, but it is more difficult. You have to watch really closely for body language indicators, or just have the guts to interrupt women's workouts on the hope that if you do it enough, someone will be interested. I've taken group fitness classes in my current city to work around the earbud problem over the years. I prefer doing it this way, but have done weight room approaches with women with earbuds in at times.

@Ceams_ - You have achieved the most difficult part of gym approaching. You've gotten positive body language. You are free to open her with almost anything. I would open her with an observation about her (what you noticed about her), ask her some questions, and then ask her out on a drinks date or activity date (if you've determined some great activity you have in common).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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