lately ive been spending more time watching peoples' body language, posture, and just how they carry themselves. probably the biggest surprise was i noticed a fairly hot coworker mirroring me. for about an hour we had to sit at this big table and listen to a presentation(she was right next to me). anyway id change how i was sitting in the chair and how my arms were and she would follow suit, usually within seconds. ive had people mirror me other time, but never seen it this strongly. weather i just didnt pick up on it or what im not really sure.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how strong if an IOI is it when someone mirrors you?
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