"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how strong if an IOI is it when someone mirrors you?

jvick

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lately ive been spending more time watching peoples' body language, posture, and just how they carry themselves. probably the biggest surprise was i noticed a fairly hot coworker mirroring me. for about an hour we had to sit at this big table and listen to a presentation(she was right next to me). anyway id change how i was sitting in the chair and how my arms were and she would follow suit, usually within seconds. ive had people mirror me other time, but never seen it this strongly. weather i just didnt pick up on it or what im not really sure.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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WC2

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I don't know if I would look that far into it man. I get all the IOIs I need by watching a woman's eyes and facial expression. Her "mirroring" you could just be something subconscious that doesn't necessarily mean shes attracted.
 

wjh

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Well mirroring, when it comes to women, 99% of the time is a good thing if you're looking to make a move. If anything I would look at it as her being open to your advances. It's subtle but it's there. You should act in kind. If it were any other location (not work), like school, I would recommend opening with some basic convo, etc.

I wouldn't recommend that here though because she's your coworker... That's another topic however.
 
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