"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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how should i respond to this?

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Ok met some girl off plentyoffish the other day! things went fine and we are meeting up again tmrw!

she msgs me today saying "i assume you still talk to other people on pof still don't you?"

I reply back with "yes sure i talk to everyone on it"

she then msgs back with "No, its totally fine....so do i. It's just that there is someone who talks a lot and i can relate to like i do with you and i just wanted to make sure you were in the same situation and fine with it. Don't like lieing to people or leading them on."

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She just sent another text saying "No better than i get onw ith you.... never met them or anything. I know you better. So, do i take it that it would bother you?"
 
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I wouldn't even reply to it. Just meet up with her and act as if the conversation never even happened.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RSanders219 said:
I wouldn't even reply to it. Just meet up with her and act as if the conversation never even happened.
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im pretty sure she will ask in person!
 
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really not a difficult one, she's just laying it out honestly. No need for games or fancy words, thank her for that honestly and proceed to show her what a great person you are.

that's what I would do, imo women at times feel undervalued/not taken seriously. it's a breath of fresh air for them to have someone affirm what they've said esp if they're not bsing with mind games.
 
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reply "it's all good, let's just keep having fun and take it step by step"

aloof and cryptic blow off.
 
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I didn't reply! and she called me to ask if im pissed at her? I basically said nah thanks for being honest..talk to whoever you want im not the jealous type! she then said are we ok for tmrw and i said "yeah it should be lots of fun."

think i said the right stuff? lol Im more bothered not regarding this chick but for future encounters with the same situation. If she wants to go with an afc then thats her choice but also her loss!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Well ok I went on the date with her tonight! We went for a meal...everything went fine, she paid etc! then we got to a club danced abit, went for a kiss after lots of iois and she backed off and gave me a peck! we then left club and i offered to go out sat...she then said she can't shes doing something else on saturday....then 5 mins later she started crying and said she is seeing another guy on sat!

Basically she wants to casually date a few guys and see what happens....she also said that shes never had a proper relationship! (shes 23) any of you guys met a girl like this before? isn't it a bit weird the way shes acting?
 
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Honest and pays for dates! Sounds like a keeper with a side of nutty. Danny, this may be the best catch I've heard in a while or the best horror story you eventually will have to share around a campfire. Honestly, to cry on the first date..
 
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DannyM said:
Well ok I went on the date with her tonight! We went for a meal...everything went fine, she paid etc! then we got to a club danced abit, went for a kiss after lots of iois and she backed off and gave me a peck! we then left club and i offered to go out sat...she then said she can't shes doing something else on saturday....then 5 mins later she started crying and said she is seeing another guy on sat!

Basically she wants to casually date a few guys and see what happens....she also said that shes never had a proper relationship! (shes 23) any of you guys met a girl like this before? isn't it a bit weird the way shes acting?
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You're gonna open pandora's box soon, my friend. My guess is that you won't like what's gonna come out.
 
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DannyM said:
Well ok I went on the date with her tonight! We went for a meal...everything went fine, she paid etc! then we got to a club danced abit, went for a kiss after lots of iois and she backed off and gave me a peck! we then left club and i offered to go out sat...she then said she can't shes doing something else on saturday....then 5 mins later she started crying and said she is seeing another guy on sat!

Basically she wants to casually date a few guys and see what happens....she also said that shes never had a proper relationship! (shes 23) any of you guys met a girl like this before? isn't it a bit weird the way shes acting?
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Yeah... I have no idea what's she's doing, but there's definitely crazy in her. It's for you to find out if it's fun crazy or just crazy crazy. Good luck with that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EvilAgenda said:
Let her.


P.S. I'm curious. Why did you let her pay for you? Is that what you meant by saying "she paid"?
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Yeah, she pretty much just walked up and paid the bill when i went to toilet, i offered to pay my half but she said it was ok. This girl is puzzling me more than any before lol.
 
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