Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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how should i respond to this?

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Ok met some girl off plentyoffish the other day! things went fine and we are meeting up again tmrw!

she msgs me today saying "i assume you still talk to other people on pof still don't you?"

I reply back with "yes sure i talk to everyone on it"

she then msgs back with "No, its totally fine....so do i. It's just that there is someone who talks a lot and i can relate to like i do with you and i just wanted to make sure you were in the same situation and fine with it. Don't like lieing to people or leading them on."

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She just sent another text saying "No better than i get onw ith you.... never met them or anything. I know you better. So, do i take it that it would bother you?"
 
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I wouldn't even reply to it. Just meet up with her and act as if the conversation never even happened.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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RSanders219 said:
I wouldn't even reply to it. Just meet up with her and act as if the conversation never even happened.
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im pretty sure she will ask in person!
 
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really not a difficult one, she's just laying it out honestly. No need for games or fancy words, thank her for that honestly and proceed to show her what a great person you are.

that's what I would do, imo women at times feel undervalued/not taken seriously. it's a breath of fresh air for them to have someone affirm what they've said esp if they're not bsing with mind games.
 
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reply "it's all good, let's just keep having fun and take it step by step"

aloof and cryptic blow off.
 
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I didn't reply! and she called me to ask if im pissed at her? I basically said nah thanks for being honest..talk to whoever you want im not the jealous type! she then said are we ok for tmrw and i said "yeah it should be lots of fun."

think i said the right stuff? lol Im more bothered not regarding this chick but for future encounters with the same situation. If she wants to go with an afc then thats her choice but also her loss!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well ok I went on the date with her tonight! We went for a meal...everything went fine, she paid etc! then we got to a club danced abit, went for a kiss after lots of iois and she backed off and gave me a peck! we then left club and i offered to go out sat...she then said she can't shes doing something else on saturday....then 5 mins later she started crying and said she is seeing another guy on sat!

Basically she wants to casually date a few guys and see what happens....she also said that shes never had a proper relationship! (shes 23) any of you guys met a girl like this before? isn't it a bit weird the way shes acting?
 
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Honest and pays for dates! Sounds like a keeper with a side of nutty. Danny, this may be the best catch I've heard in a while or the best horror story you eventually will have to share around a campfire. Honestly, to cry on the first date..
 
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DannyM said:
Well ok I went on the date with her tonight! We went for a meal...everything went fine, she paid etc! then we got to a club danced abit, went for a kiss after lots of iois and she backed off and gave me a peck! we then left club and i offered to go out sat...she then said she can't shes doing something else on saturday....then 5 mins later she started crying and said she is seeing another guy on sat!

Basically she wants to casually date a few guys and see what happens....she also said that shes never had a proper relationship! (shes 23) any of you guys met a girl like this before? isn't it a bit weird the way shes acting?
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You're gonna open pandora's box soon, my friend. My guess is that you won't like what's gonna come out.
 
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DannyM said:
Well ok I went on the date with her tonight! We went for a meal...everything went fine, she paid etc! then we got to a club danced abit, went for a kiss after lots of iois and she backed off and gave me a peck! we then left club and i offered to go out sat...she then said she can't shes doing something else on saturday....then 5 mins later she started crying and said she is seeing another guy on sat!

Basically she wants to casually date a few guys and see what happens....she also said that shes never had a proper relationship! (shes 23) any of you guys met a girl like this before? isn't it a bit weird the way shes acting?
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Yeah... I have no idea what's she's doing, but there's definitely crazy in her. It's for you to find out if it's fun crazy or just crazy crazy. Good luck with that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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EvilAgenda said:
Let her.


P.S. I'm curious. Why did you let her pay for you? Is that what you meant by saying "she paid"?
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Yeah, she pretty much just walked up and paid the bill when i went to toilet, i offered to pay my half but she said it was ok. This girl is puzzling me more than any before lol.
 
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