tennisbuck12
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when a girl said this about me:
What a guy
What a guy
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How should I respond to this urgent
- Thread starter tennisbuck12
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wifehunter
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I'd say.. Depends on her tone or delivery.
tennisbuck12
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Flirty I suprised her today with a delivered dinner. She works long hours and had something going on tonight.
RecoveringNiceGuy
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You don't really give any context, pretty much always escalate. If you don't already have a date planned already, make one. If you do have one already scheduled, then respond back with something flirty but also ending the conversation by telling her you'll see her the day of your date.
A woman's attraction grows when she has time to think and wonder about you, so the more you text and the longer it takes you to make a date the less attracted she'll be to you.
A woman's attraction grows when she has time to think and wonder about you, so the more you text and the longer it takes you to make a date the less attracted she'll be to you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wifehunter
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marmel75
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Is this your girlfriend? Please say yes, or I think I'll bang my head into the wall, lol
logicallefty
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^^This is probably best. But if you must respond:
HB: What a guy
LL: Don't tell anyone, you will ruin my rep
Maximus Rex
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I sincerely hope this chick is your girlfriend. Please say she's your girlfriend.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
marmel75
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LMAO!!! We just pretty much said the same thing...
Maximus Rex
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Yeah, I saw that. After I posted my reply.
tennisbuck12
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No shes not. Did I mess up? I've been dating her for 2 months
marmel75
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You didn't do yourself any favors, I'll say that...
But what's done is done. I'd respond with
"Just don't tell your friends, I wouldn't want them trying to get with me every time you turn your back!
"My use of the emoticon is only to show I'm joking, I typically hate them but in this situation it's OK
tennisbuck12
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crap.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Maximus Rex
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Define "dating."
Have you had the opportunity to get know her carnally?
Are you talking to other chicks?
How was surprising a chick (who isn't your girlfriend,) with dinner suppose to benefit you?
tennisbuck12
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We've been out on 8-9 dates, and I've cut off com. with my other ladies. I do like her alot, which is uncharted terrority for me.
I guess it was a stupid idea, because i just showed her I cared.
I guess it was a stupid idea, because i just showed her I cared.
marmel75
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Have you fvcked her?
Maximus Rex
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You didn't answer the questions. I didn't ask you those questions to f*ck off time out of my life.
Those questions are pertinent to your situation and your answers are designed to give posters on this thread the needed background information to give you the correct advice. With all of that being said, good ole Rex has four more questions,
Why do you like this chick so much?
What exactly did she do for you to like her so much?
Why did you drop your other chicks?
How was dropping your other chicks suppose to benefit you? Finally you should post a picture of this chick. Rex wants see what the chick who has you sprung looks like.
Those questions are pertinent to your situation and your answers are designed to give posters on this thread the needed background information to give you the correct advice. With all of that being said, good ole Rex has four more questions,
Why do you like this chick so much?
What exactly did she do for you to like her so much?
Why did you drop your other chicks?
How was dropping your other chicks suppose to benefit you? Finally you should post a picture of this chick. Rex wants see what the chick who has you sprung looks like.
tennisbuck12
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Here you go. I do appreciate the help
1.) No, i haven't b@nged her yet.
2.) Shes cool to hang out and got's her crap together.
3.) She hasn't done much at all. Paid for some thing but that all
4.) I wanted to be able to focus on her, then typically do my half @ss aprroach and get everything I can before I move on.
1.) No, i haven't b@nged her yet.
2.) Shes cool to hang out and got's her crap together.
3.) She hasn't done much at all. Paid for some thing but that all
4.) I wanted to be able to focus on her, then typically do my half @ss aprroach and get everything I can before I move on.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.