tennisbuck12
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when a girl said this about me:
What a guy
What a guy
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How should I respond to this urgent
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wifehunter
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I'd say.. Depends on her tone or delivery.
tennisbuck12
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Flirty I suprised her today with a delivered dinner. She works long hours and had something going on tonight.
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You don't really give any context, pretty much always escalate. If you don't already have a date planned already, make one. If you do have one already scheduled, then respond back with something flirty but also ending the conversation by telling her you'll see her the day of your date.
A woman's attraction grows when she has time to think and wonder about you, so the more you text and the longer it takes you to make a date the less attracted she'll be to you.
A woman's attraction grows when she has time to think and wonder about you, so the more you text and the longer it takes you to make a date the less attracted she'll be to you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wifehunter
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marmel75
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Is this your girlfriend? Please say yes, or I think I'll bang my head into the wall, lol
logicallefty
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^^This is probably best. But if you must respond:
HB: What a guy
LL: Don't tell anyone, you will ruin my rep
Maximus Rex
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I sincerely hope this chick is your girlfriend. Please say she's your girlfriend.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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LMAO!!! We just pretty much said the same thing...
Maximus Rex
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Yeah, I saw that. After I posted my reply.
tennisbuck12
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No shes not. Did I mess up? I've been dating her for 2 months
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You didn't do yourself any favors, I'll say that...
But what's done is done. I'd respond with
"Just don't tell your friends, I wouldn't want them trying to get with me every time you turn your back!
"My use of the emoticon is only to show I'm joking, I typically hate them but in this situation it's OK
tennisbuck12
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crap.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Maximus Rex
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Define "dating."
Have you had the opportunity to get know her carnally?
Are you talking to other chicks?
How was surprising a chick (who isn't your girlfriend,) with dinner suppose to benefit you?
tennisbuck12
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We've been out on 8-9 dates, and I've cut off com. with my other ladies. I do like her alot, which is uncharted terrority for me.
I guess it was a stupid idea, because i just showed her I cared.
I guess it was a stupid idea, because i just showed her I cared.
marmel75
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Have you fvcked her?
Maximus Rex
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You didn't answer the questions. I didn't ask you those questions to f*ck off time out of my life.
Those questions are pertinent to your situation and your answers are designed to give posters on this thread the needed background information to give you the correct advice. With all of that being said, good ole Rex has four more questions,
Why do you like this chick so much?
What exactly did she do for you to like her so much?
Why did you drop your other chicks?
How was dropping your other chicks suppose to benefit you? Finally you should post a picture of this chick. Rex wants see what the chick who has you sprung looks like.
Those questions are pertinent to your situation and your answers are designed to give posters on this thread the needed background information to give you the correct advice. With all of that being said, good ole Rex has four more questions,
Why do you like this chick so much?
What exactly did she do for you to like her so much?
Why did you drop your other chicks?
How was dropping your other chicks suppose to benefit you? Finally you should post a picture of this chick. Rex wants see what the chick who has you sprung looks like.
tennisbuck12
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Here you go. I do appreciate the help
1.) No, i haven't b@nged her yet.
2.) Shes cool to hang out and got's her crap together.
3.) She hasn't done much at all. Paid for some thing but that all
4.) I wanted to be able to focus on her, then typically do my half @ss aprroach and get everything I can before I move on.
1.) No, i haven't b@nged her yet.
2.) Shes cool to hang out and got's her crap together.
3.) She hasn't done much at all. Paid for some thing but that all
4.) I wanted to be able to focus on her, then typically do my half @ss aprroach and get everything I can before I move on.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.