tennisbuck12
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when a girl said this about me:
What a guy
What a guy
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How should I respond to this urgent
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wifehunter
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I'd say.. Depends on her tone or delivery.
tennisbuck12
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Flirty I suprised her today with a delivered dinner. She works long hours and had something going on tonight.
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You don't really give any context, pretty much always escalate. If you don't already have a date planned already, make one. If you do have one already scheduled, then respond back with something flirty but also ending the conversation by telling her you'll see her the day of your date.
A woman's attraction grows when she has time to think and wonder about you, so the more you text and the longer it takes you to make a date the less attracted she'll be to you.
A woman's attraction grows when she has time to think and wonder about you, so the more you text and the longer it takes you to make a date the less attracted she'll be to you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wifehunter
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marmel75
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Is this your girlfriend? Please say yes, or I think I'll bang my head into the wall, lol
logicallefty
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^^This is probably best. But if you must respond:
HB: What a guy
LL: Don't tell anyone, you will ruin my rep
Maximus Rex
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I sincerely hope this chick is your girlfriend. Please say she's your girlfriend.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
marmel75
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LMAO!!! We just pretty much said the same thing...
Maximus Rex
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Yeah, I saw that. After I posted my reply.
tennisbuck12
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No shes not. Did I mess up? I've been dating her for 2 months
marmel75
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You didn't do yourself any favors, I'll say that...
But what's done is done. I'd respond with
"Just don't tell your friends, I wouldn't want them trying to get with me every time you turn your back!
"My use of the emoticon is only to show I'm joking, I typically hate them but in this situation it's OK
tennisbuck12
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crap.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maximus Rex
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Define "dating."
Have you had the opportunity to get know her carnally?
Are you talking to other chicks?
How was surprising a chick (who isn't your girlfriend,) with dinner suppose to benefit you?
tennisbuck12
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We've been out on 8-9 dates, and I've cut off com. with my other ladies. I do like her alot, which is uncharted terrority for me.
I guess it was a stupid idea, because i just showed her I cared.
I guess it was a stupid idea, because i just showed her I cared.
marmel75
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Have you fvcked her?
Maximus Rex
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You didn't answer the questions. I didn't ask you those questions to f*ck off time out of my life.
Those questions are pertinent to your situation and your answers are designed to give posters on this thread the needed background information to give you the correct advice. With all of that being said, good ole Rex has four more questions,
Why do you like this chick so much?
What exactly did she do for you to like her so much?
Why did you drop your other chicks?
How was dropping your other chicks suppose to benefit you? Finally you should post a picture of this chick. Rex wants see what the chick who has you sprung looks like.
Those questions are pertinent to your situation and your answers are designed to give posters on this thread the needed background information to give you the correct advice. With all of that being said, good ole Rex has four more questions,
Why do you like this chick so much?
What exactly did she do for you to like her so much?
Why did you drop your other chicks?
How was dropping your other chicks suppose to benefit you? Finally you should post a picture of this chick. Rex wants see what the chick who has you sprung looks like.
tennisbuck12
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Here you go. I do appreciate the help
1.) No, i haven't b@nged her yet.
2.) Shes cool to hang out and got's her crap together.
3.) She hasn't done much at all. Paid for some thing but that all
4.) I wanted to be able to focus on her, then typically do my half @ss aprroach and get everything I can before I move on.
1.) No, i haven't b@nged her yet.
2.) Shes cool to hang out and got's her crap together.
3.) She hasn't done much at all. Paid for some thing but that all
4.) I wanted to be able to focus on her, then typically do my half @ss aprroach and get everything I can before I move on.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.