"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How she looks at sex

Leporello

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Lately, i've noticed a real difference between how my gf and I view sex. I think of it as.. sex, something amazing. She seems to consider it more like getting a massage or eating Godiva chocolates; that is, something to clear out the problems of the day and make yourself feel good, but nothing earth-shattering.

Naturally, this has led to self-doubt and whatnot. Is this normal? Is this something I ought to be concerned about, or is it nothing?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Leporello

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Not all of us are insensitive pricks.

And anyway, the better it is for her, the more I can ask her to do.
 

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Some people are wired differently.

I've found that liberal people have a more relaxed, take-it-or-leave-it attitude toward sex. They like it, but it's just one pleasurable thing and it doesn't come with all the psychological extras that others get with sex. So they can't understand why more conservative people are so uptight about sex and want to put restrictions on things like pornography, gay marriage, etc... If it feels good, then what's the big deal?

More conservative people are much more uptight about sex and with good reason. Along with sex comes issues of control, power, lust domination, original sin and every other messed up thing in the human psyche. No wonder they want to put restrictions on sexual behavior...you would too. Conservative people are actually fifty times hornier than everyone else, contrary to popular belief. Even the horniest dog liberal like Jack Kennedy couldn't keep up with someone who was wired more conservatively.

I bet you're a more conservative guy, which is why sex to you is the culmination of the physical, the psychological, the emotional and the spiritual. Your girl just isn't wired that way. To her it's fine, but it's just sex.

So go find some sexually repressed lady and she'll be a wildcat. She'll be trying to suck the pants off of you.
 

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Originally posted by Leporello
...,the better it is for her, the more I can ask her to do.
So, sex is negotiation for you then? Do you see something inherently wrong with a statement like this? You're happy to make it good for her without condition, yet you feel the need to 'ask' her to do things for you? She has (and recognizes she has) the power in your relationship.

You shouldn't have to 'ask' her for anything sexually, she should have the same drive you have to give unconditionally and with passion and desire for you. Anything less is not an equitable arangement and not ideal. Move on.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
So, sex is negotiation for you then? Do you see something inherently wrong with a statement like this? You're happy to make it good for her without condition, yet you feel the need to 'ask' her to do things for you? She has (and recognizes she has) the power in your relationship.

You shouldn't have to 'ask' her for anything sexually, she should have the same drive you have to give unconditionally and with passion and desire for you. Anything less is not an equitable arangement and not ideal. Move on.
A poor choice of words. What I should've said was 'the better it is for her, the more inclined she'll be to try new things'.

That's all I meant.
 
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