"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How she looks at sex

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Lately, i've noticed a real difference between how my gf and I view sex. I think of it as.. sex, something amazing. She seems to consider it more like getting a massage or eating Godiva chocolates; that is, something to clear out the problems of the day and make yourself feel good, but nothing earth-shattering.

Naturally, this has led to self-doubt and whatnot. Is this normal? Is this something I ought to be concerned about, or is it nothing?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Not all of us are insensitive pricks.

And anyway, the better it is for her, the more I can ask her to do.
 
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Some people are wired differently.

I've found that liberal people have a more relaxed, take-it-or-leave-it attitude toward sex. They like it, but it's just one pleasurable thing and it doesn't come with all the psychological extras that others get with sex. So they can't understand why more conservative people are so uptight about sex and want to put restrictions on things like pornography, gay marriage, etc... If it feels good, then what's the big deal?

More conservative people are much more uptight about sex and with good reason. Along with sex comes issues of control, power, lust domination, original sin and every other messed up thing in the human psyche. No wonder they want to put restrictions on sexual behavior...you would too. Conservative people are actually fifty times hornier than everyone else, contrary to popular belief. Even the horniest dog liberal like Jack Kennedy couldn't keep up with someone who was wired more conservatively.

I bet you're a more conservative guy, which is why sex to you is the culmination of the physical, the psychological, the emotional and the spiritual. Your girl just isn't wired that way. To her it's fine, but it's just sex.

So go find some sexually repressed lady and she'll be a wildcat. She'll be trying to suck the pants off of you.
 
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Originally posted by Leporello
...,the better it is for her, the more I can ask her to do.
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So, sex is negotiation for you then? Do you see something inherently wrong with a statement like this? You're happy to make it good for her without condition, yet you feel the need to 'ask' her to do things for you? She has (and recognizes she has) the power in your relationship.

You shouldn't have to 'ask' her for anything sexually, she should have the same drive you have to give unconditionally and with passion and desire for you. Anything less is not an equitable arangement and not ideal. Move on.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
So, sex is negotiation for you then? Do you see something inherently wrong with a statement like this? You're happy to make it good for her without condition, yet you feel the need to 'ask' her to do things for you? She has (and recognizes she has) the power in your relationship.

You shouldn't have to 'ask' her for anything sexually, she should have the same drive you have to give unconditionally and with passion and desire for you. Anything less is not an equitable arangement and not ideal. Move on.
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A poor choice of words. What I should've said was 'the better it is for her, the more inclined she'll be to try new things'.

That's all I meant.
 
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