Latinking13
Don Juan
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just wondering ? 
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
for conversation, we like each other, but im just asking if i should call her everday or every so often ?HandyAndy said:40 times a day...
jk, what are you gonna be calling her for?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If it's a GF, as many times as you wantLatinking13 said:just wondering ?![]()
cant think of a user name said:you know how girls get excited when a guy she likes calls them up? let her have that excitement. don't call too often.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
tsmith2334 said:all depends...
i used to call girls kinda often, but i don't really think it does a whole lot for you in the grand scheme of things.
definitely call if there's something important to talk to about, but if you just want to chat do it sparingly. they have girlfriends for that.
exactly. save talking and long conversations for in-person like on when you are on a date or at the bar. it is much better when you can express more feeling, read body language, use kino, etc.Latinking13 said:yeah i dont like to talk too much on the fone either , dont wana bore them or get bored myself
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Leporello said:She should be calling you.
yeah i def dont wana be her freindMr Autobahn said:Yeah, you probably don't want to talk too long or too often at the beginning. I'm guessing you rather be her boyfriend than a platonic friend...