Latinking13
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just wondering ? 
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How Often should u call up a girl on the fone ?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Latinking13
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for conversation, we like each other, but im just asking if i should call her everday or every so often ?HandyAndy said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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I agree with DoctorLW and HandyAndy. Just find a balance...
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If it's a GF, as many times as you wantLatinking13 said:just wondering ?
If it's a girl you are attracted to, don't call too often. Maybe once a day. And keep the conversations short and sweet. If you can charm her by talking, soon she'll be calling you ten times a day
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you know how girls get excited when a guy she likes calls them up? let her have that excitement . don't call too often.
. don't call too often.Latinking13
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cant think of a user name said:you know how girls get excited when a guy she likes calls them up? let her have that excitement
alright, i wont call her too often
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
tsmith2334
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all depends...
i used to call girls kinda often, but i don't really think it does a whole lot for you in the grand scheme of things.
definitely call if there's something important to talk to about, but if you just want to chat do it sparingly. they have girlfriends for that.
i used to call girls kinda often, but i don't really think it does a whole lot for you in the grand scheme of things.
definitely call if there's something important to talk to about, but if you just want to chat do it sparingly. they have girlfriends for that.
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tsmith2334 said:
yeah i dont like to talk too much on the fone either , dont wana bore them or get bored myself
tsmith2334
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exactly. save talking and long conversations for in-person like on when you are on a date or at the bar. it is much better when you can express more feeling, read body language, use kino, etc.Latinking13 said:
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Yeah, you probably don't want to talk too long or too often at the beginning. I'm guessing you rather be her boyfriend than a platonic friend...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I call up my women once every few months. This way they know I am not clingy and spend all that time wondering if I am going to call. But I do have 29 plates spinning right now. It is easier for me this way to get away with not calling for so long. I did have 30, but her psycho boyfriend broke through my security system, egged my house and shot my cat with a pellet gun last week, so I decided enough with that.
My suggestion: Call her as often as you like. Since you are not me, you cannot get away with this.
My suggestion: Call her as often as you like. Since you are not me, you cannot get away with this.
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Leporello said:
she never does lol...
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yeah i def dont wana be her freindMr Autobahn said: