"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How Often should u call up a girl on the fone ?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Latinking13

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HandyAndy said:
40 times a day...
jk, what are you gonna be calling her for?
for conversation, we like each other, but im just asking if i should call her everday or every so often ?
 

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Whenever you want. That's the bottom line.

There is no specific number of times you should call a girl. That's just stupid.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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I agree with DoctorLW and HandyAndy. Just find a balance...
 

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Latinking13 said:
just wondering ? :confused:
If it's a GF, as many times as you want
If it's a girl you are attracted to, don't call too often. Maybe once a day. And keep the conversations short and sweet. If you can charm her by talking, soon she'll be calling you ten times a day :D
 

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what to talk about?

I have a problen finding good topics to talk about on the phone. any Ideas?????????
 

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cant think of a user name said:
you know how girls get excited when a guy she likes calls them up? let her have that excitement :). don't call too often.

alright, i wont call her too often
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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all depends...

i used to call girls kinda often, but i don't really think it does a whole lot for you in the grand scheme of things.

definitely call if there's something important to talk to about, but if you just want to chat do it sparingly. they have girlfriends for that.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
all depends...

i used to call girls kinda often, but i don't really think it does a whole lot for you in the grand scheme of things.

definitely call if there's something important to talk to about, but if you just want to chat do it sparingly. they have girlfriends for that.

yeah i dont like to talk too much on the fone either , dont wana bore them or get bored myself
 

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Latinking13 said:
yeah i dont like to talk too much on the fone either , dont wana bore them or get bored myself
exactly. save talking and long conversations for in-person like on when you are on a date or at the bar. it is much better when you can express more feeling, read body language, use kino, etc.
 

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She should be calling you.
 

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Yeah, you probably don't want to talk too long or too often at the beginning. I'm guessing you rather be her boyfriend than a platonic friend...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I call up my women once every few months. This way they know I am not clingy and spend all that time wondering if I am going to call. But I do have 29 plates spinning right now. It is easier for me this way to get away with not calling for so long. I did have 30, but her psycho boyfriend broke through my security system, egged my house and shot my cat with a pellet gun last week, so I decided enough with that.

My suggestion: Call her as often as you like. Since you are not me, you cannot get away with this.
 

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Mr Autobahn said:
Yeah, you probably don't want to talk too long or too often at the beginning. I'm guessing you rather be her boyfriend than a platonic friend...
yeah i def dont wana be her freind
 
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