"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How Often should u call up a girl on the fone ?

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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HandyAndy said:
40 times a day...
jk, what are you gonna be calling her for?
for conversation, we like each other, but im just asking if i should call her everday or every so often ?
 

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Whenever you want. That's the bottom line.

There is no specific number of times you should call a girl. That's just stupid.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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I agree with DoctorLW and HandyAndy. Just find a balance...
 

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Latinking13 said:
just wondering ? :confused:
If it's a GF, as many times as you want
If it's a girl you are attracted to, don't call too often. Maybe once a day. And keep the conversations short and sweet. If you can charm her by talking, soon she'll be calling you ten times a day :D
 

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what to talk about?

I have a problen finding good topics to talk about on the phone. any Ideas?????????
 

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cant think of a user name said:
you know how girls get excited when a guy she likes calls them up? let her have that excitement :). don't call too often.

alright, i wont call her too often
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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all depends...

i used to call girls kinda often, but i don't really think it does a whole lot for you in the grand scheme of things.

definitely call if there's something important to talk to about, but if you just want to chat do it sparingly. they have girlfriends for that.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
all depends...

i used to call girls kinda often, but i don't really think it does a whole lot for you in the grand scheme of things.

definitely call if there's something important to talk to about, but if you just want to chat do it sparingly. they have girlfriends for that.

yeah i dont like to talk too much on the fone either , dont wana bore them or get bored myself
 

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Latinking13 said:
yeah i dont like to talk too much on the fone either , dont wana bore them or get bored myself
exactly. save talking and long conversations for in-person like on when you are on a date or at the bar. it is much better when you can express more feeling, read body language, use kino, etc.
 

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She should be calling you.
 

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Yeah, you probably don't want to talk too long or too often at the beginning. I'm guessing you rather be her boyfriend than a platonic friend...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I call up my women once every few months. This way they know I am not clingy and spend all that time wondering if I am going to call. But I do have 29 plates spinning right now. It is easier for me this way to get away with not calling for so long. I did have 30, but her psycho boyfriend broke through my security system, egged my house and shot my cat with a pellet gun last week, so I decided enough with that.

My suggestion: Call her as often as you like. Since you are not me, you cannot get away with this.
 

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Mr Autobahn said:
Yeah, you probably don't want to talk too long or too often at the beginning. I'm guessing you rather be her boyfriend than a platonic friend...
yeah i def dont wana be her freind
 
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