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Master Don Juan
6'4 170 trying to get to 185 by june...jea
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PumpNightmare said:Twenty pounds heavier then me, same hieght, but a larger waist? I didn't think muscle wieghed THAT much more.![]()
Le Parisien said:Height: 1m74 or 5'9'' (5'8½ for those who want precision)
Weight: 67kg or 148lbs
Ok, for what I'm gonna say next, I will probably get "lynched" by a lots of people here on this forum.
I am NOT looking for a bodybuilder type of physique, I think it's gross.
I am trying to get a more "athletic" build, I'm shooting for a little more than 70kg, that's about 155lbs.
I used to pratice breakdancing, now I've been doing capoeira for a year, hopefully, in two or three years, I will get real good. I prefer to have better agility and "relative strength" (the strength per bodyweight ratio) so I can do some crazy acrobatics than becoming a real buff muscle man...
Anyway, thanks to my genes, it's almost impossible for me to get "big". I always eat whatever I want, whenever I want, and as much as I want. If I do some sports regularly, even eating like that won't make me gain a single pound. Guess I have a fast metabolism. So becoming a muscle man is not an option for me anyway...unless I use steroids I guess...![]()
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I wasn't saying I don't want/have muscles, just not in a buff way. Let's say I prefer to have a swimmer's physique than a bodybuilder's physique.brucevangeorge said:Wussy. Real men aren't scared of muscle, especially their own.
FYI: Bigger guys have a higher strength to weight ratio.
Bodybuilding? HAHAHAHA. Look at these stats. Most are wannabees. (myself included.. I'm not where I should be at)Le Parisien said:So bigger guys have a higher strength to weight ratio huh?
Can you do a handstand on one hand?
How many pull-ups can you do in a row?
How many push-ups?
Can you do the turtle (lifting your whole bodyweight on your two arms under your belly?
etc...
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You mean like Bruce Lee?CDogg said:5'8 73kg, the ideal weight would be 69kg
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.