"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How much ya bench?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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thanks. do you go to urbana?
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
Nope. Not even sure what you're talking about lol.
jiza101
Master Don Juan
I dont bench press anymore, i only do dumbell press, since benching ****s my rotater cuffs to much.
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
Yah the barbell bench press restricts your shoulder movement by keeping your hands stationary on that bar. The dumbbells allow free movement and rotation of your shoulders.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jiza101
Master Don Juan
correct, benching is just for ego... Not many naturals or pros do flat bench anymore..
coolguy676767
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lol and where do you get this information, flat bench should be the focus of your workout, although I do stress the other exercises for isolation after the bench part is done, but that is like the other guy said, it would be like saying squats are mediorcre, and we should do leg press instead, although dumb bells are good for bench press, you need flat bench, cause dumb bells are more for your triceps, cause you keep them closer to the body
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
Well, both BB and DB bench press both have their place, but as far as functionality go, I prefer the DB. Also, when I do DB presses, my pecs really feel a burn. You are allowed to stretch them more, increasing the ROM (Range of Motion) in your pecs which in turns causes more TUT (Time Under Tension). This all leads to an increase in muscle break down and an increase in compound strength. However, you are correct in the fact that you can use a much wider grip when using a barbell.
LordBrian
Don Juan
I am training for overall performance, and endurance... not strength. Running, situps, and pushups are my staples.
5'9" 155lbs - 160 Bench
5'9" 155lbs - 160 Bench
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
jiza101
Master Don Juan
Exactly
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
Strength greatly improves your overall performanc. Just to let you know.
Understood.
LordBrian
Don Juan
upper body strength wont help my 2 mile run though...
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
Ah correct on that one. Never really understood why people like distance. Me? 100 and 200m only please.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LordBrian
Don Juan
I am training to join the military soon. That is why i am particularly focusing on endurance excersises...
I dont want to get my butt handed to me during PT.
I think im making good progress so far... since im going to wait about a year or so to finish up my associate and go rotc...
started out barely able to do 20 situps, now i can do 60 after 15 min of countless crunches, bicycle kicks, flutter kicks and such. ( i probably should measure myself while i am fresh for an accurate reading)
2 mile run was a dismal 22.43... now im down to 18.12... not too bad after a month.
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
After only a month? That's actually quite a large improvement. Overdistance (running at least 25% farther than your target distance) often helps with endurance aspects of running.