spaceman2001
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I know you're supposed to take it slow at first. But let's say you've been dating for 4 or 5 months, is it okay to see her like almost every day?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How much time should you spend with your girlfriend?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DONT! I commited this fatal mistake with my gf of 5 months....when im not at work or sleeping or the gym im with her, its ncie at first but then you grow tired of each other and the bickering starts....if you want to see her every day make sure you only spend 1-3 hours together unless u sleep int he same bed. Always ahve soemthing to do...i ****ed up by being too available
You did NOT fvck up by being too available. You SUCCEEDED in finding the girl that is RIGHT for you. If she REALLY loved you, there is NO way that being around you all the time would have had a negative impact on the relationship. PERIOD. It's ALWAYS better to take "risks" and filter out the chicks who AREN'T RIGHT for you. Better now than in 20 years.
There is something called balance. Lets put it this way, I see my best friend everyday because we carpool too and from school, and hang out at lunch. However, that doesn't mean that everyday after school we do something, have you own life and incorporate your girlfriend into it. Treat her like you would treat a good friend, withing remembering the commitments of a relationship.
--Mission
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
American_Psycho
Don Juan
You should spend as much time as you want with her.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.