spaceman2001
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I know you're supposed to take it slow at first. But let's say you've been dating for 4 or 5 months, is it okay to see her like almost every day?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How much time should you spend with your girlfriend?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DONT! I commited this fatal mistake with my gf of 5 months....when im not at work or sleeping or the gym im with her, its ncie at first but then you grow tired of each other and the bickering starts....if you want to see her every day make sure you only spend 1-3 hours together unless u sleep int he same bed. Always ahve soemthing to do...i ****ed up by being too available
You did NOT fvck up by being too available. You SUCCEEDED in finding the girl that is RIGHT for you. If she REALLY loved you, there is NO way that being around you all the time would have had a negative impact on the relationship. PERIOD. It's ALWAYS better to take "risks" and filter out the chicks who AREN'T RIGHT for you. Better now than in 20 years.
There is something called balance. Lets put it this way, I see my best friend everyday because we carpool too and from school, and hang out at lunch. However, that doesn't mean that everyday after school we do something, have you own life and incorporate your girlfriend into it. Treat her like you would treat a good friend, withing remembering the commitments of a relationship.
--Mission
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
American_Psycho
Don Juan
You should spend as much time as you want with her.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.