spaceman2001
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I know you're supposed to take it slow at first. But let's say you've been dating for 4 or 5 months, is it okay to see her like almost every day?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How much time should you spend with your girlfriend?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DONT! I commited this fatal mistake with my gf of 5 months....when im not at work or sleeping or the gym im with her, its ncie at first but then you grow tired of each other and the bickering starts....if you want to see her every day make sure you only spend 1-3 hours together unless u sleep int he same bed. Always ahve soemthing to do...i ****ed up by being too available
You did NOT fvck up by being too available. You SUCCEEDED in finding the girl that is RIGHT for you. If she REALLY loved you, there is NO way that being around you all the time would have had a negative impact on the relationship. PERIOD. It's ALWAYS better to take "risks" and filter out the chicks who AREN'T RIGHT for you. Better now than in 20 years.
There is something called balance. Lets put it this way, I see my best friend everyday because we carpool too and from school, and hang out at lunch. However, that doesn't mean that everyday after school we do something, have you own life and incorporate your girlfriend into it. Treat her like you would treat a good friend, withing remembering the commitments of a relationship.
--Mission
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
American_Psycho
Don Juan
You should spend as much time as you want with her.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.