spaceman2001
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I know you're supposed to take it slow at first. But let's say you've been dating for 4 or 5 months, is it okay to see her like almost every day?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How much time should you spend with your girlfriend?
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
DONT! I commited this fatal mistake with my gf of 5 months....when im not at work or sleeping or the gym im with her, its ncie at first but then you grow tired of each other and the bickering starts....if you want to see her every day make sure you only spend 1-3 hours together unless u sleep int he same bed. Always ahve soemthing to do...i ****ed up by being too available
You did NOT fvck up by being too available. You SUCCEEDED in finding the girl that is RIGHT for you. If she REALLY loved you, there is NO way that being around you all the time would have had a negative impact on the relationship. PERIOD. It's ALWAYS better to take "risks" and filter out the chicks who AREN'T RIGHT for you. Better now than in 20 years.
There is something called balance. Lets put it this way, I see my best friend everyday because we carpool too and from school, and hang out at lunch. However, that doesn't mean that everyday after school we do something, have you own life and incorporate your girlfriend into it. Treat her like you would treat a good friend, withing remembering the commitments of a relationship.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
American_Psycho
Don Juan
You should spend as much time as you want with her.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.
This may seem like a lame answer, but it's the truth. Hang out with her when you want to, no more and no less. Don't neglect your friends and normal activites. They will hate you for it, and you'll regret it.
On the other hand, don't feel the need to make up excuses to seem "less available" to her. That kind of stuff can be helpful in the attraction phase but should not be part of a real relationship.