Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Are people leaving that city in droves?
The population has decreased significantly since the beginning of covid. Add in the anti-business oriented government, tax the wealthy mindset, the high unemployment rate, and the stumbling economy, the soft on crime mentality, the significant rise in violent crime, and it's not an ideal place to live right now.
As much fun as you want... In your hotel room. That assumes you can actually enter the hotel. With De Blasio (ranked the worst mayor in NYC history), I do not believe you can enter a hotel and book a room. Wait until after January 1st. Mayor-Elect Adams' spokesperson said he will be rolling back some of De Blasio's mandates.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I hope that happens. Adams looks promising for NYC. Deblasio really did a number on NYC and drove it into the ground. Kind of like dinkins did back in the day.
I'm from New York, and the vaccine mandate is the one thing keeping me away from my family and friends. This year I will be spending Xmas and New Year where I currently live.
Why did you move to Bend, OR? Were you missing Blockbuster that much?
Haha, it took me a year after I moved to visit that store. Not gonna lie, it is kinda cool and nostalgic.