Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How much do looks matter

Thebestthereeveris

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So many God damn opinions on this but I want to hear your guys view and also say why you chose the answer. Me personally I think looks matter and it's pretty crazy pickup and game dudes discount it
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Looks matter. But mostly for online dating. In real life you can find other ways to compensate - game, social value, your presence, frame, etc..

I think it comes down to this: as a man, you have to bring value to the table. This is either: good looks, money, status, game, social value, confidence & charisma..
 

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In real life you can find other ways to compensate - game, social value, your presence, frame, etc..
Agree and adding one more - his energy! Or perhaps that falls under his "presence"?

Not sure why energy gets discounted so often.. a man's great energy can trump all those things mentioned imo.

On the other hand, he could be a total Chad in every sense of the word but if his energy is piss poor he's gonna flop!

And I agree with @Dr.Suave , initiate when interested and I don't mean sexually Mode One. Ugh.

That will not fly with a high quality girl... be assertive, confident and respectful.

With a low quality, hoeish type girl Mode One might work. Depends on what you want I spose.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't believe @We_ArE_VeNOM is seeking a "high quality girl" necessarily...he's just seeking a woman he finds hot and is down to f***.

In which case Mode One could work.

My read on it anyway
I don't even think "hot" is a requirement. Apparently he slammed a 70-year old not too long ago.
 

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I don't even think "hot" is a requirement. Apparently he slammed a 70-year old not too long ago.
Lol well HE may have found her hot.. who the hell knows!

He has uploaded pics of some of the women he's approached who he found hot... I (and others) were a bit shocked but hey everyone has different tastes right?
 

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So many God damn opinions on this but I want to hear your guys view and also say why you chose the answer. Me personally I think looks matter and it's pretty crazy pickup and game dudes discount it
Plenty of ordinary-looking men have women. But looks help enormously.

Status and dangerousness trump all.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Looks, personality, status, money. Some variables carry more weight than others, and it varies from woman to woman since they are not all the same.
 

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Nah. If Looks are all she's got, she's probably a thot.

Looks are only crucial for OLD, when that is all you can go by, initially.

With cold approach, looks help a bit, but body language and vibe are what's essential
(+ fitness/physique holds more weight here, regardless of looks.
Sexiness = How she carries herself, confidence, playfulness)
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When it comes to social circles, other more important qualities shine.
Looks become totally irrelevant.
Ice Queens with zero personality are 0/10 in my book.

What matters is:
Self respect. This includes physical fitness, I'm not turned on by women who let themselves go.
Ability to communicate her needs and desires.
Calling me out on things that she has issue with, before it becomes a serious problem.
Character. Putting in effort, matching mine.
Willingness to step out of her comfort zone, even if she doesn't want to.
Not lying, cheating, etc.
Being an example for others.
Supporting me in what I find important, even if it's stuff she's not comfortable with.

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Okay, an example from one of our social circles, there's this woman with a facial deformity, a birthmark.
Her portraits would be sub-five.
But she keeps in shape, runs regularly, eats sensibly, drinks only socially, a fit and trim body.
Works two jobs to make ends meet.
And she's stuck by her man, even though their marriage hit a rocky patch with him going through depression and having to work/travel interstate. She relocated temporarily to support him. I think they're over the worst now.
I've known other couples whose relationships don't survive living apart.


So she has high self respect and high character.
She probably could have plastic surgery or something to improve her facial appearance, but she doesn't need to.
I'd consider her a high value woman.
 

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Culture matters. And yes, skin color gets involved [I know this forum tries to evade the reality, but I think it's important, too].
 

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Plenty of ordinary-looking men have women. But looks help enormously.

Status and dangerousness trump all.
Yeh Dangerousness does trump all. My wife back then she was my gf watched the movie Driver with Ryan Gosling. For the next few days she kept asking me to be serious all the time like his character in the movie. Mind you the character is a ruthless killer. She wanted me to act like a ruthless killer. Da fuq
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So many God damn opinions on this but I want to hear your guys view and also say why you chose the answer. Me personally I think looks matter and it's pretty crazy pickup and game dudes discount it
What looks average here, looks exotic elsewhere.
 

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What looks average here, looks exotic elsewhere.
Thats why im a passport bro. The quality of poon I got overseas is higher than I would get in the USA. That exotic factor is huge. Go to a country that your look is rare.
 

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If the woman if young, yes looks matter. She wants to get pregnant.

If the woman is older, looks don’t matter as much. She wants resources.

Remember men, women are on the clock, that makes their wants and needs towards the opposite sex change every minute,
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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