Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How many women have you had sex with?

How many women have you had sex with?

  • 5 or less

    Votes: 18 22.0%
  • 10 to 20

    Votes: 19 23.2%
  • 20 or more

    Votes: 42 51.2%
  • 5 to 10

    Votes: 3 3.7%

  • Total voters
    82

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Who knows. Well over 100. Maybe 200? Couldnt even begin to tell how many. Not sure if that is a good thing or bad thing.
 

Reyaj

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Who knows. Well over 100. Maybe 200? Couldnt even begin to tell how many. Not sure if that is a good thing or bad thing.
Not counting hookers bud...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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B80

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Sorry "bud".....I would never fvck a hooker. These are all chicks that I have dated, hooked up with or spun as plates. Its not terribly hard if you have a decent SMV and are not scared to approach as a single guy in today's dating world.
out of interest, what has been the most lucrative way to meet women for you? online, day time, nightclubs etc?
 

Reyaj

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Sorry "bud".....I would never fvck a hooker. These are all chicks that I have dated, hooked up with or spun as plates. Its not terribly hard if you have a decent SMV and are not scared to approach as a single guy in today's dating world.
That's a very high number count.. how old are you BUD?
 

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Somewhere ~200 when I stopped tracking it a few years ago, I was obsessed enough to keep a spreadsheet to track. At the time I guess I needed it to validate myself, now it seems silly as frak. Quality vs Quantity. Had to see it to believe it I guess. I'm in my 50's.
 

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7 total. I’m 48
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think around 40.

I kind of stopped counting once I was in double figures and I realised fast that a high lay count really didn't mean anything lol. It's just a byproduct of how good looking you are and how often you approach girls (and the standard of girls you go for of course). When I was a virgin I remember being so jealous when I heard of people claim to have slept with hundreds of girls and stuff, but after literally 9 lays or so, that completely disappeared.
 
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I’m in my mid-twenties so the count is still 10-20. I also still believe in love (though I know most people on this forum don’t and would call me naïve) so I usually get to know the girl a bit first which I think is also uncommon on this forum. Usually I don’t bang on the first date (unless she’s smoking hot) and I don’t do male escorts which I suspect a lot of the people with 500+ counts have. However, I’m not a child and will bang if she asks me to, but I will wait a bit if she does not initiate it.
 

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Just be careful and cover your tracks.
You sound like you speak from experience. Care to speak of how it went down?

I’m not at that point I suppose
 

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That's a very high number count.. how old are you BUD?
44. I was married for 8 years in my late 20s- early 30s. Had slept with probably 60+ women before I was married. Its not hard bug guy. 10 chicks a year when you're spinning plates is child's play.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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